He loves me..he loves me NOT?!!! (men, cheater, husband)

[Granny Sue]

I agree on the trust issue but....lots of things were left out.
It was stated that the female was head over heals but not the male.
If the feelings were mutual then they need to have a long talk. The male that's claiming to be bi-sexual needs to decide if he's ready to be in an exclusive relationship with a female or vice versa.

[andreaspercheron]

I think if I were in that situation and the guy confessed to me that he is "bi". I'd have to end the relationship. For several reasons that have already been brought up but yes, I'd have to end it. I'd want at some point to not have to worry about safe sex and never could. Its hard enough having women as competition and you'd be always wondering if your man was checking out women AND men.

[coldwine]

Originally Posted by CESpeed

My number one problem would be the lack of trust. If he doesn't trust me enough to tell me earlier than a year into the relationship that he's bi-sexual,what else is he hiding? Then comes the issue of would we he be able to be in a monogamous relationship or would we have to be in an "open" relationship? Has he been with men during the time we've been dating?

I couldn't do it just because of the trust issues.

Oh that's pure BS. We all have issues we keep hidden from prospective partners. Bisexuals are no more prone to infidelity than anyone else. Being bisexual doesn't equate to having to worry about whether or not they'll cheat on you.

Have you told your partner every horrible thing you've done, or about every person you've dated? Rarely do people do so. Being bisexual isn't any order of magnitude higher than anything else on the list of things we don't share with people we've dated for a year.

[BTEX08]

I would worry about the things he is able to get from guys that I am unable to provide him with! Will this eventually lead him to infidelity? I've been in the situation where I thought my guy was bi (or gay), but he would not admit to it. I wouldn't expect a guy to tell you before a year because is it worth it for him? They don't know how you would react... In my personal experience, it made me feel inadequate. I was extremely insecure about all that I wasn't capable of providing him that perhaps a dude could. AND maybe he wasn't really gay and my own insecurities (& questioning it) ended that one! ha ha!!

[artsyguy]

lol it won't work out believe me. I'm gay and know everything about anything.

[artsyguy]

Yes it does. I don't have my scientific formulas to prove it yet but maybe SifuPhil does....

Originally Posted by coldwine

Oh that's pure BS. We all have issues we keep hidden from prospective partners. Bisexuals are no more prone to infidelity than anyone else. Being bisexual doesn't equate to having to worry about whether or not they'll cheat on you.

Have you told your partner every horrible thing you've done, or about every person you've dated? Rarely do people do so. Being bisexual isn't any order of magnitude higher than anything else on the list of things we don't share with people we've dated for a year.

[artsyguy]

Yes you are right. The openly bisexual people I know are extremely unreliable and immature that swing back and forth. Break relationships off to go out with another gender, etc.

Originally Posted by Jlyn5669

If it's been a year and he hasn't made mention of this til now? Hmmm, I agree with Broderhol, I'm not sure where I stand on this issue, either. If he's bisexual wouldnt he get the urge to go back and forth? If this is the case, his SO would need to keep herself protected. Tough Call....

[flmom28]

RUN. Actually kick his a** then run.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by Broderhol

Some people believe that you are either straight or homosexual and that bi-sexuality doesn't really exist. In other words, some say they are bi-sexual because they aren't comfortable enough to admit to others or themselves that they are homosexual. I'm not sure where I personally fall on this issue, but I have many male homosexual friends that feel this way. I suppose I would trust their instincts and leave. I've seen some of those TV stories where they are married to the perfect man for 20 years until one day they find out he's attracted to other men. Can you imagine how horrible that would be?

Yeah, I knew personally somebody who "discovered" he was gay after marriage and 2 kids...

To answer the original question - no way, Jose.

[Latrice McCullough]

I would say have fun with him but nowadays it's just too dangerous. Honesty is a good thing. He didn't have to tell you. But leave that alone, unless you are down with that type of thing????