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Old 09-10-2008, 12:00 PM
 
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I think you did the right thing for your standards. I have the same standards.

I have a few ex's that I have run into and hung out with BUT my guy was there with me. I didnt even question that at all. Just incase the ex's got any ideas in quiet moments. I doubt they would of made the move in front of a 6'2'' irishman.
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Old 09-14-2008, 12:28 AM
 
Location: Cosmic Consciousness
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I'd think about any relationship -- any PERSON -- that made me feel as marginalized as you are feeling now. Tell her how you feel. If she picks the comfort of her ex over your comfort, move on.
PERFECT! I agree completely, and Stan4 said it perfectly. And if she argues, or hesitates, or hems and haws -- move on.

What people SAY is interesting; what people DO proves what they actually value. Sorry, friend. But there are plenty of fish in the sea.
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Old 09-14-2008, 09:49 AM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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Here's an idea. Pack your things and leave. Or better yet...pack her things and show her the door. Pretty simple stuff.
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Old 09-14-2008, 10:08 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I agree with the other posters.
Its one thing to still be good friends with your ex.. good for them for not splitting hating each other, like alot of them do, BUT....it sounds like she hasn`t even told him about you. Whats up with that?
I realize that they made these plans before you come along, but you are with her now. He needs to know this...hellloooo???
I would understand this situation a little better, if she wanted to introduce the two of you, and even invite you to dinner with them.
Thats not right!
She is hiding something.... How was she planning on having him stay all night with her, without him finding out about you? OMG!! He was planning on staying there, alone with her?
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Old 09-14-2008, 09:35 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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My ex and I are friends. If he and I made an arrangement and plans before I met you, I am not going to change them becuase that just opens the door to you dictating who I can and can't be friends with and that isn't going to happen. What I would do is tell him about you, introduce you and even have you stay with us if it would make you feel better.

As for dinner, if it was just suppose to be the two of us, I would invite you along. As for the show, I would still keep those plans because, as mentioned, these plans were made before the two of you became exclusive.

It takes great maturity to be friends after a relationship is over. I would have no problem dating someone who was still friends with his ex. It would show me that he can maturely end a relationship and there won't be any drama if it ends.
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Old 09-15-2008, 06:01 AM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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Yeah but he can still get a hotel for the couple nights. Thats just weird.
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