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I have a few relatives who I can not stand. So I was talking to a couselor about the issue because it is to my advantage to give them the matter of the doubt and try to communicate.
The couselor told me that I should look for good things about these people. The couselor asked me to list 5 things that were good about these difficult relatives. So I though and thought and thought. I just could not come up with one thing that was good or even tolerable about them.
(I am sure they think they are wonderful and I am in the wrong of course)
Do you know anyone who has no redeeming qualities?
Yes - and she works in the same office as I do. I had to apply for a position in another department to get away from her. I cannot think of a single thing she is good for. She did have a cat that she cared for, but even that she got rid of when her apt manager said no pets allowed anymore - instead of looking for a place that would allow a cat. So the one redeeming thing she may have had going for her, she got rid of because it became an inconvenience.
This guy thats been married three times made the comment that I might be coming into more money when my wifes Dad died said something just as callous a week later when her mother passed.
I'll admit I wish bad for him, which has come true without my intervention but........
When I first read the name of the thread, I felt bad opening it because I try so hard to find everyone's redeeming qualities, but hell with that right now!!
My best friends husband has no redeeming qualities, unless, during a weak moment he has signed the organ donor card on his drivers license. He is a compulsive gambler, compulsive liar, habitual cheater, drug addict, alcoholic, sexual deviant and has been physically abusive to my friend and his kids. He has told his kids that nice people suck and good men(those who do not posess his qualities) are p#*$y whipped...he is vile.
This guy is soooo slick, NO ONE knew he was such a cretin. He is a schmoozer...you know, a bacl slapping nice guy.
He gets so drunk he gets into fights at the country club, passes out, or does not come home for a few days.
With that said, she is divorcing him and I am thrilled!! Now I feel like I need to go to church...
Sounds like your counselor is trying to manipulate your judgment.
If you judge that your certain relatives are flat out toxic or terrible to be around. Then so be it. Keep yourself safe and focus on the positive aspects of those people you like and respect. It's a waste of time to sit around thinking how certain awful relatives are actually good.
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Originally Posted by Refugee56
I have a few relatives who I can not stand. So I
was talking to a couselor about the issue because it is to my advantage to give them the matter of the doubt and try to communicate.
The couselor told me that I should look for good things about these people. The couselor asked me to list 5 things that were good about these difficult relatives. So I though and thought and thought. I just could not come up with one thing that was good or even tolerable about them.
(I am sure they think they are wonderful and I am in the wrong of course)
Do you know anyone who has no redeeming qualities?
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You must be really harsh. Thank you for making me feel lenient today!
