Sticky Situation!

[atlantagreg30127]

Originally Posted by Meel

I've been married 10 years, and found out my wife cheated on me around 18 months ago - we did the usual thing, anger, resentment, seperation, tears etc. but eventually I made the decison to take her back, and try to work it out. It's not working. ...

This new person is a woman (married) .... We can't stop texting, emailing, calling and meeting up - she admits to falling for me in a "big way"....

We have at this point however "drawn a line in the sand", we have not jumped into bed with each other, nothing has happened thankfully - our conscience is holding us back, but I don't know for how long.

Ok, you know, normally I scan all the posts before I say anything, but in this case I'm making some comments right after I read the clips of your post above BEFORE reading anyone else's comments. So I might hit on part of it that's already been answered.

My take..

You say you took your wife back after she cheated and "it's not working". Fine - that's simple. Have a talk, end it, divorce and move on with your life. That's actually the easy part. You're accomplishing nothing by staying together.

The other, not so much. The other woman is married. Period. Now, if she and her husband have a stale, sour, or otherwise crummy marriage, fine, she should leave HIM, and then the both of you run away into the sunset together. If her marriage is fine other than just a bit stale - too bad. She's in it. Be a man, step up and say that it's not the right thing to do, and stop even talking to each other (including texts, etc). Don't let Mr. Winkie or Mr. Winkie's love pointer control your common sense.

If the two of you are meant to be together, you will both make yourselves single, and you will both be together. Otherwise, just move on from BOTH women.

[Meel]

Originally Posted by Meel

Well, discussion had, and common sense has prevailed. It was difficult, but we have decided that it would be best to drop contact. I am still intending to end my marriage, that was coming before any of this happened. I told her to take a very serious look at her own marriage, and try to patch it if she can without any complicating factors (ie: me!) time will tell what happens from here.

Thanks all for pointing out some (now) glaringly obvious things. Case closed

I think some of you missed my last post ^

And to the poster who asked if I mean it...yes I do. My marriage is over, hers is falling apart too, but any decision she makes is hers, and hers alone. I decided not to go any further, and not influence her decisions any further than I may have already done. Believe me, I feel better ending it now before any more damage is done.