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View Poll Results: Do you let your SO look?
Yes 26 81.25%
No 6 18.75%
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Old 09-24-2008, 06:08 PM
 
Location: Whitewater, Colorado
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I was just curious about how many other people let their SO look at other women/men with the applied rule that they can look but cannot touch? I think it's a great way of practicing jealousy relief "exercises". It's helped me a ton. So what about the rest of you?
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Old 09-24-2008, 06:10 PM
YBF
 
Location: Atlanta, Ga
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I think that is disrespectful....but to each their own.
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Old 09-24-2008, 06:19 PM
 
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Uh...how do you stop a grown man/woman from looking at other people??

I don't have an issue with my husband getting glances at other women. I'm attractive, but I'm not naive enough to think I'm the ONLY woman he finds attractive. It's human nature to look at other attractive people...hell, I look at other men too.

Having said that, there is a difference between looking and gawking. If we're out together and he's staring or breaking his neck to look then that's disrespectful and crosses the line. But I don't mind him sneaking glances.

Now touching is a whole 'nother ballgame...if I found out he had touched another woman in an inappropriate way then we'd be heading for divorce court.
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Old 09-24-2008, 06:21 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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Uh...how do you stop a grown man/woman from looking at other people??

I don't have an issue with my husband getting glances at other women. I'm attractive, but I'm not naive enough to think I'm the ONLY woman he finds attractive. It's human nature to look at other attractive people...hell, I look at other men too.

Having said that, there is a difference between looking and gawking. If we're out together and he's staring or breaking his neck to look then that's disrespectful and crosses the line. But I don't mind him sneaking glances.

Now touching is a whole 'nother ballgame...if I found out he had touched another woman in an inappropriate way then we'd be heading for divorce court.
Sounds reasonable
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Old 09-24-2008, 06:28 PM
YBF
 
Location: Atlanta, Ga
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Uh...how do you stop a grown man/woman from looking at other people??

I don't have an issue with my husband getting glances at other women. I'm attractive, but I'm not naive enough to think I'm the ONLY woman he finds attractive. It's human nature to look at other attractive people...hell, I look at other men too.

Having said that, there is a difference between looking and gawking. If we're out together and he's staring or breaking his neck to look then that's disrespectful and crosses the line. But I don't mind him sneaking glances.

Now touching is a whole 'nother ballgame...if I found out he had touched another woman in an inappropriate way then we'd be heading for divorce court.
I dont think that my bf doesnt find other women attractive besides me either. But if we are together he shouldnt to check other women. Its disrespectful. I mean he has eyes so of course he will see the people around him. But he better not look as if he likes what he sees because he will get checked on the spot. How would he like it if I was checking out another dude while standing next to him....he probably would be mad as $#!% too. And I am far from insecure just will not tolerate being disrespected in any shape or form.
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Old 09-24-2008, 06:49 PM
 
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LOL...o'kay
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Old 09-24-2008, 06:52 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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I dont think that my bf doesnt find other women attractive besides me either. But if we are together he shouldnt to check other women. Its disrespectful. I mean he has eyes so of course he will see the people around him. But he better not look as if he likes what he sees because he will get checked on the spot. How would he like it if I was checking out another dude while standing next to him....he probably would be mad as $#!% too. And I am far from insecure just will not tolerate being disrespected in any shape or form.
How old are you??

A casual glance isn't necessarily disrespectful.

Outright staring is something else.
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Old 09-24-2008, 07:03 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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I dont think that my bf doesnt find other women attractive besides me either. But if we are together he shouldnt to check other women. Its disrespectful. I mean he has eyes so of course he will see the people around him. But he better not look as if he likes what he sees because he will get checked on the spot. How would he like it if I was checking out another dude while standing next to him....he probably would be mad as $#!% too. And I am far from insecure just will not tolerate being disrespected in any shape or form.
It's very important that you remain in control of your emotions at all times and act with grace, tact and class. Clockin' yo man cuz he be lookin' at some hanna aint where it's at bra!
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Old 09-24-2008, 07:43 PM
 
Location: Whitewater, Colorado
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Uh...how do you stop a grown man/woman from looking at other people??

I don't have an issue with my husband getting glances at other women. I'm attractive, but I'm not naive enough to think I'm the ONLY woman he finds attractive. It's human nature to look at other attractive people...hell, I look at other men too.

Having said that, there is a difference between looking and gawking. If we're out together and he's staring or breaking his neck to look then that's disrespectful and crosses the line. But I don't mind him sneaking glances....

ditto!
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Old 09-24-2008, 08:07 PM
 
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As my wife says, "I don't care where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home."
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