Look too young? (dating, boyfriend, married, women)
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Kind of a strange question for you all, but one that I have been thinking about.
Does anyone else find it difficult to date people their own age because they look younger/older than they are? Personally, I am 28, and look like I am 19-20 (get carded for everything). In turn, I have always dated people younger than I am (closest to my age was 2 years younger).
This has also affected my outlook a bit, as most of the time when I meet women my own age I think they're too old for me (don't take that wrong). This is probably part of the reason I am not married- younger women tend to be more immature (again, don't take that wrong).
No, I don't find it hard. I think it should be more like personality. I've met some older women who act like their teenagers, and not in a good way. I mean they act immature and foolish. That is a turn-off. I can't date a woman who is immature.
But I can date a young looking woman. I guess the reasons why you have problems is because you seem to be too hung up on looking like a "perfect match". Am I right or wrong?
I would say no, I am not hung up on that. Or maybe I am... heck I dont know?? Food for thought anyway.
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Originally Posted by What!
No, I don't find it hard. I think it should be more like personality. I've met some older women who act like their teenagers, and not in a good way. I mean they act immature and foolish. That is a turn-off. I can't date a woman who is immature.
But I can date a young looking woman. I guess the reasons why you have problems is because you seem to be too hung up on looking like a "perfect match". Am I right or wrong?
My boyfriend looks young for his age (27). But what helped me get over that was getting to know him through the internet first. Our inner connection was strong before we actually met in person as friends.
Looks arent everything....depending on what I am wearing ppl either think I am older or younger than what I am. But after taking the time to converse with me most ppl lean toward older. IMO, it about your personality and how you carry yourself. OP you looking 19-20 may not be the problem older woman have with you. Maybe those women are to old (mind and body) or your approach to them along with you appearance seems to be that of a 19-20 yr old...just my opinion
Actually, I don't approach them... as I stated, I think my mindset is a bit off... they look too old for me so I avoid it...
Hope that isn't taken wrong, I am not saying women that age look old. Just that I feel I look too young for them. It isn't really a big deal, I was just curious as to what people think about themselves.
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Originally Posted by YBF
Looks arent everything....depending on what I am wearing ppl either think I am older or younger than what I am. But after taking the time to converse with me most ppl lean toward older. IMO, it about your personality and how you carry yourself. OP you looking 19-20 may not be the problem older woman have with you. Maybe those women are to old (mind and body) or your approach to them along with you appearance seems to be that of a 19-20 yr old...just my opinion
It's also important to note, no, I don't think appearances are everything. I am not shallow in that regard. But I feel many others are, which is why I think about these things. (confusing, no?)
Nope, I can't say that looking young has ever effected me in that way. When I was 24, I was first mistaken for being under 18 and then again mistaken for being under 16! But there was no way I was dating teenagers. In fact, I was always attracted to men who were at least a year or so older than me. My husband is 6 years and 9 months older than I am. I'm now 26 and I doubt I look any older. My husband on the other hand, looks about his age. We must look like an odd couple, with him looking about 33 and me looking about 18 at best! But we don't care.
Kind of a strange question for you all, but one that I have been thinking about.
Does anyone else find it difficult to date people their own age because they look younger/older than they are? Personally, I am 28, and look like I am 19-20 (get carded for everything). In turn, I have always dated people younger than I am (closest to my age was 2 years younger).
This has also affected my outlook a bit, as most of the time when I meet women my own age I think they're too old for me (don't take that wrong). This is probably part of the reason I am not married- younger women tend to be more immature (again, don't take that wrong).
Just curious more than anything.
I'd guess one third of the population look younger then their age, one third look their age and one third look older then their age. There are tons of people your age who look younger then they are. No need to go dating "little girls".
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Food for thought anyway. 
