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I have been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for 3 years. For the past 3 years we have pretty much been with each other every day. We are both very young I am 20 and he is 22, and we have been switching off living together since we are always moving around due to school. When we first starting dating we fell really really hard, and the relationship started moving very fast. I lost a lot of my friends due to moving because of school and he didn't hang out with his friends much, and when he did I would be there too. About a month ago things starting getting weird, he was really distant, on edge, annoyed, and not emotional at all with me. We started to fight a lot and I would cry about 4 times a week. NOT HEALTHY. Last week I found out that he texted a another girl (he used to be interested in) at 2 am saying things like what's up, what are you doing. I only found this out because the girl sent me the texts! I freaked, and left his house this was on a Saturday night. He didn't chase after me and decided to get wasted with his buds. The next day he didn't call me or anything, I was deeply hurt and very confused. He ended up calling me that night and he told me he was so upset all weekend and his friends told him not to call me. Him and I had done a lot of thinking by not talking to each other for a few days and decided we need more time apart to really think about what we want out of this. Its been 4 days since we've seen each other, and we met up last night. When we saw each other it was like we were when we first started dating. This was on a Wednesday and at the end of the night he told me ill see you on Sunday.. I was so confused why would he not want to see me all weekend? I was a little taken back, he said we need to change everything, because before wasn't working and we were both miserable. He told me that he doesn't want me to hangout with his friends anymore, and that when we hangout its just us. He wants his alone time with them because he wants to build better friendships with them. So to me its like he wants to start over the whole relationship. The reason I am writing this is because I am not sure if this is a good thing. I feel like things are better between us but I'm scared the distance will make him like his friends more than me (since were so young). He told me he doesn't want to get to comfortable with me because he wont treat me or respect me like he should.. Idk im just confused and need some advice. Do you think what is going on is a good or bad thing? He told me he loves me a lot and there's no girl that will ever be as good as me. But who knows what he is doing, what is he going to do a whole weekend by himself! I think im being paranoid but any advice?!
I have been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for 3 years. For the past 3 years we have pretty much been with each other every day. We are both very young I am 20 and he is 22, and we have been switching off living together since we are always moving around due to school. When we first starting dating we fell really really hard, and the relationship started moving very fast. I lost a lot of my friends due to moving because of school and he didn't hang out with his friends much, and when he did I would be there too. About a month ago things starting getting weird, he was really distant, on edge, annoyed, and not emotional at all with me. We started to fight a lot and I would cry about 4 times a week. NOT HEALTHY. Last week I found out that he texted a another girl (he used to be interested in) at 2 am saying things like what's up, what are you doing. I only found this out because the girl sent me the texts! I freaked, and left his house this was on a Saturday night. He didn't chase after me and decided to get wasted with his buds. The next day he didn't call me or anything, I was deeply hurt and very confused. He ended up calling me that night and he told me he was so upset all weekend and his friends told him not to call me. Him and I had done a lot of thinking by not talking to each other for a few days and decided we need more time apart to really think about what we want out of this. Its been 4 days since we've seen each other, and we met up last night. When we saw each other it was like we were when we first started dating. This was on a Wednesday and at the end of the night he told me ill see you on Sunday.. I was so confused why would he not want to see me all weekend? I was a little taken back, he said we need to change everything, because before wasn't working and we were both miserable. He told me that he doesn't want me to hangout with his friends anymore, and that when we hangout its just us. He wants his alone time with them because he wants to build better friendships with them. So to me its like he wants to start over the whole relationship. The reason I am writing this is because I am not sure if this is a good thing. I feel like things are better between us but I'm scared the distance will make him like his friends more than me (since were so young). He told me he doesn't want to get to comfortable with me because he wont treat me or respect me like he should.. Idk im just confused and need some advice. Do you think what is going on is a good or bad thing? He told me he loves me a lot and there's no girl that will ever be as good as me. But who knows what he is doing, what is he going to do a whole weekend by himself! I think im being paranoid but any advice?!
your boyfriend sounds like an idiot, but I'm not sure what city is best for you...definitely not Seattle because it rains way too much and mold and fungus is rampant
I personally focus all my time on getting money and an education and not on relationships.... relationships are a waste of time in my opinion, don't have the time to deal with someone elses crap.
Sounds like he is making a clean break. He doesn't want you hanging out with his friends because he's dating other people, most likely the girl he's been texting, and they will clue you in on anything that is odd. Dump him, he's disrespectful.
I'll see you on Sunday. Take your power back and tell him "who knows. we will get together sometime soon."
Get a massage, get your hair done, put on a sexy dress and your highest high-heels and go round up a few new recruits pretty girl for his replacement.
"You can hang out with your friends alone all you want cause I've had enough of the lies. I care for you, but we both need to move on. We've grown apart. See ya and thanks for the memories. We had fun."
And then, before you know it, you'll find someone new.
I have been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for 3 years. For the past 3 years we have pretty much been with each other every day. We are both very young I am 20 and he is 22, and we have been switching off living together since we are always moving around due to school. When we first starting dating we fell really really hard, and the relationship started moving very fast. I lost a lot of my friends due to moving because of school and he didn't hang out with his friends much, and when he did I would be there too. About a month ago things starting getting weird, he was really distant, on edge, annoyed, and not emotional at all with me. We started to fight a lot and I would cry about 4 times a week. NOT HEALTHY. Last week I found out that he texted a another girl (he used to be interested in) at 2 am saying things like what's up, what are you doing. I only found this out because the girl sent me the texts! I freaked, and left his house this was on a Saturday night. He didn't chase after me and decided to get wasted with his buds. The next day he didn't call me or anything, I was deeply hurt and very confused. He ended up calling me that night and he told me he was so upset all weekend and his friends told him not to call me. Him and I had done a lot of thinking by not talking to each other for a few days and decided we need more time apart to really think about what we want out of this. Its been 4 days since we've seen each other, and we met up last night. When we saw each other it was like we were when we first started dating. This was on a Wednesday and at the end of the night he told me ill see you on Sunday.. I was so confused why would he not want to see me all weekend? I was a little taken back, he said we need to change everything, because before wasn't working and we were both miserable. He told me that he doesn't want me to hangout with his friends anymore, and that when we hangout its just us. He wants his alone time with them because he wants to build better friendships with them. So to me its like he wants to start over the whole relationship. The reason I am writing this is because I am not sure if this is a good thing. I feel like things are better between us but I'm scared the distance will make him like his friends more than me (since were so young). He told me he doesn't want to get to comfortable with me because he wont treat me or respect me like he should.. Idk im just confused and need some advice. Do you think what is going on is a good or bad thing? He told me he loves me a lot and there's no girl that will ever be as good as me. But who knows what he is doing, what is he going to do a whole weekend by himself! I think im being paranoid but any advice?!
He said that to keep you in your place. He doesn't love you, or else you'd be married. He is just using you because you've allowed him to. Don't ever become financially dependent on a man. Stay where you are, save some money, move back in with your parents if you have to, and move on from him. He is no good. It is all about control.
I think it's a good thing that he doesn't want to spend time with you on weekends. If I were you, I would agree with him whole-heartedly and praise him for being so wise. Then add that you're on board with this wonderful "fresh start" idea 100% and don't want to see him on weekends nor do you want to see him during the week either, you'll be too busy with other people who treat you with respect.
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