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Another I'm unhappy post...
I moved to a city I don't like. I've been here for a few years and I can not make a friend to save a life.
We moved here for housing opportunities, then lost the quality of life we were used to.
I can't afford sports programs for my kids, I can't afford "adult" education for me. (art classes, fitness, etc.)
I can't afford to go to neighbor's parties to buy things so I don't want to go at all...
I am not the type to join a "social club".
My neighbors complain about my kids being too loud outside. My husband works 9-9, and I am alone or with the kids 24/7.
I can be very social when I have the opportunity, but I feel like I can not afford anything ever and can't partake in anything, so how can I be social?
How can I get through this, with out looking like I am "poor?"
I really, really would appreciate comments. Because being a newcomer to poordom has me at a loss and if you don't have money to participate in things, how can you ever form any relationships at all?
Start a blog that gets a following. Make friends online.
CD is a good place to start. I made friends with a CD poster and I think we are going to be good friends. We will be having lunch within a week or so, we talk on the phone all of the time. I would have never met her unless I was a CD poster. I won't tell her screen name but she is a somewhat regular poster in this forum.
People may look at hanging out in online forums on Saturday night instead of having a date is for losers but that's not the case.
Join other forums and become a regular poster and get to know some of the folks from your city and before you know it you'll have plenty of friends.
BTW, true friends don't care if you're "poor" or rich. At least I don't
Ron
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Originally Posted by 57Chevy
Another I'm unhappy post...
I moved to a city I don't like. I've been here for a few years and I can not make a friend to save a life.
We moved here for housing opportunities, then lost the quality of life we were used to.
I can't afford sports programs for my kids, I can't afford "adult" education for me. (art classes, fitness, etc.)
I can't afford to go to neighbor's parties to buy things so I don't want to go at all...
I am not the type to join a "social club".
My neighbors complain about my kids being too loud outside. My husband works 9-9, and I am alone or with the kids 24/7.
I can be very social when I have the opportunity, but I feel like I can not afford anything ever and can't partake in anything, so how can I be social?
How can I get through this, with out looking like I am "poor?"
I really, really would appreciate comments. Because being a newcomer to poordom has me at a loss and if you don't have money to participate in things, how can you ever form any relationships at all?
I can't really comment untill I know more about your situation
I was going to suggest that you find a part time job, meet new people that way. Plus it will help out with the money side
But are you already working?
Are your kids to young for you to look for work?
You said I am not the type to join a "social club" but sometimes this is the best way to meet new people.Staying at home won't help
Other wise what Ron ^ posted sounds like good advice
I can't really comment untill I know more about your situation
I was going to suggest that you find a part time job, meet new people that way. Plus it will help out with the money side
But are you already working?
Are your kids to young for you to look for work?
You said I am not the type to join a "social club" but sometimes this is the best way to meet new people.Staying at home won't help
Other wise what Ron ^ posted sounds like good advice
Sometimes people need to step out of their comfort zone a little.
Ok From one "poor" person to another, socializing isn't about money it's about your attitude and what you consider entertainment. If your neighbors complain about the kids, how about taking the kids to the park? Or invite the other neighborhood kids to your house to play. I'm sure there are moms who will appreciate the break and will return the favor.
Join a stay at home mom club or create one. You can go to a "tupperware" party without buying anything. Just don't bring attention to the fact that you aren't making a purchase and if asked, tell them you haven't made up your mind. If you'll feel totally self-concious, take a plate of deviled eggs.
If your finances are really tight, a part-tiime job might be a good idea. Try becoming the nieghborhood "Avon" lady and have your own "buy something" party.
Sometimes you have to bite the bullet and try new things. Being "newly poor" can be a culture shock, but there are lots of things you can do for free (or nearly free). The library might have a book club. Sometimes athletic organizations will offer assistance to allow children to participate for little to no cost. School activities are usually low to no cost as well. Good Luck
I agree, the part time job thing might just work out for you. And Avon is a good one. Set your own hours, do your own thing at your leisure. Right now isnt a good time though to try to sell Tupperware or Princess House crystal, with the economy being like it is, but Avon is reasonably affordable for many.
I hadn't thought of Avon until the last couple posts, but my mother started selling Avon a year or two after our family moved when I was a kid. I think she sold it for 30-35 years. She ended up knowing half the town of 5,000, including many she called friends.
Can't help you there sorry. I'm not very social. My life resolves around my hubby and my family (parents/bro & sil).
I don't go looking for friends because eventually one of us leaves or quits a job and I have tendency of not keeping in touch. Plus I trust family ALOT more than "friends"
Another I'm unhappy post...
I moved to a city I don't like. I've been here for a few years and I can not make a friend to save a life.
We moved here for housing opportunities, then lost the quality of life we were used to.
I can't afford sports programs for my kids, I can't afford "adult" education for me. (art classes, fitness, etc.)
I can't afford to go to neighbor's parties to buy things so I don't want to go at all...
I am not the type to join a "social club".
My neighbors complain about my kids being too loud outside. My husband works 9-9, and I am alone or with the kids 24/7.
I can be very social when I have the opportunity, but I feel like I can not afford anything ever and can't partake in anything, so how can I be social?
How can I get through this, with out looking like I am "poor?"
I really, really would appreciate comments. Because being a newcomer to poordom has me at a loss and if you don't have money to participate in things, how can you ever form any relationships at all?
I can understand why you're not making friends, your excuses are excuses, not reasons.
I can understand why you're not making friends, your excuses are excuses, not reasons.
Perhaps her excuses are fear driven.
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