Welcome to City-Data.com Forum!
U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Relationships
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
 
Old 11-16-2008, 09:45 AM
miu
 
Location: MA/NH
17,765 posts, read 40,091,372 times
Reputation: 18071

Advertisements

Are you still friends with all of your exes? Had she parted ways with you in less inconsiderate manner, would you want to be platonic friends with her now?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old 11-16-2008, 11:47 AM
 
25,157 posts, read 53,878,280 times
Reputation: 7058
Maybe she secretly wants some action. Think about it. It is a clever plan to bring you back into her life. Consider it a secret booty call.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 11-16-2008, 11:51 AM
 
14,727 posts, read 33,307,651 times
Reputation: 8949
Quote:
Originally Posted by yankeegirl313 View Post
If she rarely contacts you, then I would make an excuse and not go.
You owe nothing. Sounds manipulative. Don't go.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 11-16-2008, 12:46 PM
miu
 
Location: MA/NH
17,765 posts, read 40,091,372 times
Reputation: 18071
I'm a little confused here. Would you be her male escort for the evening? Where is her daughter's daddy in all of this? Will he be there? Did she invite any other exboyfriends? Or is she inviting everyone she knows or ever has known for this performance? Is she planning to introduce you to her daughter? And as as what? An old family friend?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 11-16-2008, 01:29 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
9,516 posts, read 19,976,957 times
Reputation: 9417
I'd simply tell her I don't feel comfortable being there. If you want to send a congratulatory card, gift or flowers, fine. But don't do something if your heart isn't in it for someone you don't care to see.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 11-16-2008, 01:59 PM
 
28,896 posts, read 54,045,943 times
Reputation: 46669
If you promised, you promised. If you hadn't wanted to go, you shouldn't have agreed in the first place. I'm really amazed at the people on this board who think it's perfectly okay to weasel out of an invitation that one's accepted.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 11-16-2008, 02:01 PM
 
13,783 posts, read 26,220,258 times
Reputation: 7445
Quote:
Originally Posted by cpg35223 View Post
If you promised, you promised.
I'm with you on this one...he goes this time and next time he will know better than to promise.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 11-16-2008, 02:03 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
9,516 posts, read 19,976,957 times
Reputation: 9417
Oh, I forgot about the promise. I have to agree with the last two posters then. I've always told my kids, a man is only as good as his word. Like mrstewart said, "...next time...."!
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 11-16-2008, 02:05 PM
 
Location: southern california
61,289 posts, read 87,253,323 times
Reputation: 55556
you do not owe her family support service. be pleasant be nice but dont take on obligations that are not yours.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 11-16-2008, 02:20 PM
miu
 
Location: MA/NH
17,765 posts, read 40,091,372 times
Reputation: 18071
Quote:
Originally Posted by cpg35223 View Post
If you promised, you promised. If you hadn't wanted to go, you shouldn't have agreed in the first place. I'm really amazed at the people on this board who think it's perfectly okay to weasel out of an invitation that one's accepted.
Why should he be uncomfortable all night? And his not going isn't going to upset her daughter... unless she's required to fill a certain amount of seats in the audience. And asking an exboyfriend of 20 years ago to ones own childs performance is a very odd request imo. Unless that child is 20 years old.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply
Message:

Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Relationships
Similar Threads

All times are GMT -6. The time now is 11:31 PM.

© 2005-2024, Advameg, Inc. · Please obey Forum Rules · Terms of Use and Privacy Policy · Bug Bounty

City-Data.com - Contact Us - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37 - Top