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This is a non-issue at my house. Because every minute I am not working I spend with him out of choice %<snip>% He is my best friend and biggest, most important part of my life.
20yrsinBranson
Pretty much the same here, but there are times when I need to "get away" to blow off steam - 100% attributed to work situations. If I don't have an outlet for that, I'm liable to dump it on my mate. So, I toss my camping gear on the back of my motorcycle and head to the mountains for a few days. My mate is fine with that; it wouldn't even cross his mind to question my desire; but it seems to raise quite a few eyebrows when other people hear about it That's when I get the "your husband lets you do that?" comments. I just *shrug* and say "why would he try to stop me? he's not my boss", then plaster an exaggerated gesture of shock on my face and say "you mean your husband is your boss? oh you poor girl!"
My fiance is welcome to go out with his friends whether to a bar, strip bar, dinner, whatever. I trust him so why should I deny him?
He is the same with me. Usually though, we go out together with friends or alone.
For those of you that don't want to go out with other friends that is all fine and dandy but I think someone that enjoys relationships and spending time with other people besides their spouse, is a sign of a healthy and well-rounded individual. I also think that it is NOT healthy to not want relationships with someone other than your family. Granted we are talking about healthy, respectful relationships and we aren't talking about neglecting the other spouse or wanting to go out every single night. I think most people here are talking about the once a week or so get together with the girl or guy-friends. My friends that have happy, healthy marriages have husbands that don't have problems with their wives going out. The ones that are stressed out, marriage on the rocks, etc. are the ones that never take times out for themselves. I don't think that is a coincidence.
For what it is worth, my girl's nights never turn into *****fests. Now occasionally I might have a friend that is going through marital difficulties but I dont consider talking about things with your friends that you trust *****fests.
I also think that if you have kids you have to discuss scheduling with your spouse for obvious reasons but as long as there is an equal partnership within the marriage, that shouldn't be an issue because neither spouse should just be taking off without discussing it anyway when there are kids involved. That is very different than asking for permission though. The thing that gets me the most frustrated when the husband gets to do things golfing, football games, guys nights and they never discuss it with their wife or they do it too often or the wife never takes some time off for herself. That is the sign of a very unhealthy relationship IMO.
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That's when I get the "your husband lets you do that?" comments. I just *shrug* and say "why would he try to stop me? he's not my boss", then plaster an exaggerated gesture of shock on my face and say "you mean your husband is your boss? oh you poor girl!" 
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