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What about if you only favor foreplay but you don't want to have a hard hot dog thrust in and out of you? I mean those are two different things. Seriously man fill me in on that.
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Originally Posted by wanneroo
Well anyone can lie. I've seen women do it as well so it goes both ways.
Commits to what? Being locked in the basement? Chained up in the bedroom? Having his head examined?
What i have found though experience is relationships work best when there is fluidity to them. In other words, the best thing to do is to let making love happen when it happens. If you sit down and have a little talk at the beginning of the relationship with the guy and say these are my preconditions for having sex, he going to be like Huh? I think the most you need to do is make it known you are not an easy lay and leave it at that without pulling out a 183 page contract with terms and conditions. Anytime at the beginning of the relationship where either I or the woman had a little talk and laid out preconditions and terms, the whole thing went off the rails. It's too jarring and halting. What matters is actions not words.
For me I'm not a one night stand person and I don't go with women that are either. But on the other hand I don't want to be ages down the road with the gal playing *****boo games behind the sheets.
And as I mentioned in another thread, I have seen and heard of women that supposedly do not want to engage in sexual relations too soon into the relationship, yet run around naked, frolic in bed with the man and do "other" things. If you truly do not want to get involved with having sex early on, it's helpful not to do things that might lead to it.
This is a tough poll. I voted "No." Of course, I was of the assumption when I answered the poll you were talking more about a "waiting for marriage" type scenario. And since marriage is likely a ways off for me, that would be a tough sell. Of course, the no is not an absolute by any means... You never know if you are truly in love or whatever. But, realistically, I'm not sure I'd be able to stay with someone long term in that sort of situation. Now, I totally respect, even admire, that decision, but I'm not sure such a person is the best partner for *me*.
well...now that I've read your post...I can answer the poll better.
I still don't think I'd change my answer though. I said "time frame"...because initially I thought you meant "yes" to mean that the woman was never going to have sex ever again. And that wouldn't work for me.
But, realistically speaking, is marriage the only proof you'll accept of commitment? I've known plenty of married people that weren't all that committed. Of course, most of those got divorces later, but still...
There's marriage, and then there's commitment...you can have the latter without bothering with the former. But you better have the latter if you have the former.
Remember, its a two way street. I went time frame because once you and a partner get comfortable with each other then go ahead. A set timeline is kind of silly...then again if I was 16 again I'd vote no.
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