If a woman invites a man to a bar...... (boyfriend, women, cheats)
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OK so my coworkers and I were having a debate about this. So I thought it would be a great thread topic.
Quick summary of the situation:
Coworker got a note from a guy who works at one of our partners to meet up some time. She wants to go, because she wants to be friends. She has a boyfriend and has no interest that way. They both like specialty cocktails, and that is what prompted the invite.
So we started polling the men in my office.
They all said "if she asks you for drinks, she wants to hook up. Go out for coffee instead."
She was just thinking of it being a friendly happy hour, if she were to initiate an outing.
So guys, chime in? Do you agree with my maie coworkers? [The men were in their 20s and 30s]
I think it's perfectly ok. The reasoning behind those guys doesn't make sense. She wants to invite him out to get drinks because of a common interest, so why would they go to get coffee?
I'd never get coffee with any girl, I'd be way too bored. I get drinks with anyone, whether I'm interested in her or not. It's up to the girl to decide what the guy is after and what kind of image she's putting off.
if she is attached and asked u out for drinks, she cheats. u know your turn is comin soon, i would skip that one.
Well her bf was totally in the loop on the whole situation. He was out of town when he first asked....he's back though. She is tempted to say, "Let's meet at xyz bar on XXX, you can meet my bf too!"
Well if they feel that she wants to hook up then that is on them.
I would see no problem with it the only problem is I am not a fan of alcohol and I don't like coffee so its going to be awkward trying to find a hang out spot.
man or women doesn't matter. what matters is the true intent of the arrangement, which only that person will even know.
though honestly, i would happen to guess most males in their 20's would take it as "an opportunity" regardless of what the real reasoning for the outing was.
It will be what she wants it to be. What the guy thinks it is beforehand doesn't matter. She should make sure he doesn't pay for her drinks or they split the bill, just to make sure.
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