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You could consult adults who used to be in the same situation when they were 15. Be more specific so that you can get a few opinions and choose the most positive one which gives you and your son a better idea of the possibility of resolution. All that matters is what you both think! Does'nt matter what the new girlfriend or you ex says or does. Just keep your own heads together and be happy. You'll work it out.It actually sounds like you and your son are doing well. Don't worry about the others opinion.Sometimes we cannot control events in our life but we can control what they mean to us. There are no mistakes.
Is she bald and does she have a mustache? Does she wear a suit and talk in a monotone/rude voice?
Dr. Phil is a total DOUCHE in every respect. He thinks he knows what he's talking about, but really he has no clue. He is also hideously ugly when he doesn't have to be. It's one thing to be not that great looking, I can still take you seriously if you at least TRY, but he seems to try to be a big douche with the way he presents himself. The best description, as my friend says, is that he looks like male genitalia after self-loving. I'm sorry, he really does. That is one ugly douchebag.
Last night my son came home and could barely wait to share all the doo-doo his dad's girlfriend dished him over this past weekend. The woman is apparently delusional and is assuming the Dr. Phil position. She is by profession a jewelry maker (she threads beads and twists metal into curlicues). She is sponging off my ex and contributes nothing to the household, including rent. She probably took a Psych class in community college and now she thinks she's ready to "fix" my son.
Without getting into the details, she is making statements to him about why he feels like this, why he wants that, goes on diatribes about her own political beliefs, etc. She has no kids of her own, and I have asked my ex to have her back off from trying to "parent" our son.
My son has been saving his earnings to buy himself something and unfortunately mentioned this to her. She was actually pressuring him to use his saved money to spend on a gift for his dad, because the card that he made for him just "wasn't enough" - he should buy something for him too as a "sacrifice".
My son doesn't want to hurt her feelings, or his dad's, so he is reluctant to do anything but nod and agree when these "sessions" take place. On top of this, she and my ex are constantly bickering in front of him on visits and he just turns to his video games as an escape from the ca-ca. She is also a big hypocrite - she makes remarks about my son's weight, but she herself is about 50 lbs overweight - and she explains this away to my son by saying that since there's no gas in the apartment, she can't cook healthier meals. Seriously.
I have confronted my ex before to try to improve this situation, but all he does is run to her and relay all the conversations regarding our son back to her, which just gives her more "material" for her self-imposed duty as pseudo- psychoanalyst to my son. My son wants to record some of these chat-sessions because he thinks they are unbelievable. I'm not sure yet how I want to handle this situation but I know I'm not going to discuss it with my ex (for now, because he'll just run to his gf and tell her everything I said as if my concerns as a parent are some big joke).
Does anyone have anything similar that they have dealt with? I am really getting irritated by this woman's quest to interfere with the parenting of my and my ex's son. He's only there every other weekend, btw. I'd rather not include anyone in the immediate family in this until I have a better handle on it, because news travels fast and I don't want it to get back to my ex and his gf.
I kinda understand how this feels ! I have had to deal with similar situations. Thank God the ex now has a new gf, with a much better attitude. But in the past, my son and myself have had to endure an overwhelming barrage of crap from the ex and his gf's. One of which was so jealous of my son, and me, that she gave the ex an ultimatum to never speak to me, or to see our son,(uh...ok...what a freak ! ), and she would just glare at me when I would drop my son off, of course I always smiled and waved at her...he..he !!! Finally, my son decided on his own he didn't want to visit dad's anymore, so I didn't make him. I'm not suggesting your son should stop visits, I'm just telling you what happened with my sitch.
I hope things get better for you and your son, what a pain to have to deal with such a wench !!!
Dr. Phil is a total DOUCHE in every respect. He thinks he knows what he's talking about, but really he has no clue. He is also hideously ugly when he doesn't have to be. It's one thing to be not that great looking, I can still take you seriously if you at least TRY, but he seems to try to be a big douche with the way he presents himself. The best description, as my friend says, is that he looks like male genitalia after self-loving. I'm sorry, he really does. That is one ugly douchebag.
Note to Jonathan - looks are NOT everything. These kind of posts show just how shallow you really are.
What would happen if you called the beading b*tch?? Since you've already talked to your ex husband and he either has not power over her or he never said anything to her about your request, just pick up the phone and have a little girl chat on the phone about it all...
I would just tell her she can parent when she has children of her own and until that time comes, she can back off...
Want me to do it? I am feeling particularly snarky tonight!
BB - I love the new names! I can't call her because I don't have her number, and my ex has flat out refused to allow me to speak to her when I have tried to call her in the past by way of his cell phone (she had called to my house late at night and my son happened to answer the phone and speak with her - apparently she was looking for my ex. Like he gives me periodic updated on his whereabouts for no apparent reason. )
They have no land line at the apt. FWIW, I would love it if you did it because you are one of my most favorite posters on here who is sure to crack me up and I'd bet if you did call the subsequent telling of the details would have me in stitches! But it's probably better that I don't speak with her because based on the looks of it, their relationship is already fizzling out, and I don't want to get blamed for planting any seeds of doubt into her cavernous head.
Last night my son came home and could barely wait to share all the doo-doo his dad's girlfriend dished him over this past weekend. The woman is apparently delusional and is assuming the Dr. Phil position. She is by profession a jewelry maker (she threads beads and twists metal into curlicues). She is sponging off my ex and contributes nothing to the household, including rent. She probably took a Psych class in community college and now she thinks she's ready to "fix" my son.
Without getting into the details, she is making statements to him about why he feels like this, why he wants that, goes on diatribes about her own political beliefs, etc. She has no kids of her own, and I have asked my ex to have her back off from trying to "parent" our son.
My son has been saving his earnings to buy himself something and unfortunately mentioned this to her. She was actually pressuring him to use his saved money to spend on a gift for his dad, because the card that he made for him just "wasn't enough" - he should buy something for him too as a "sacrifice".
My son doesn't want to hurt her feelings, or his dad's, so he is reluctant to do anything but nod and agree when these "sessions" take place. On top of this, she and my ex are constantly bickering in front of him on visits and he just turns to his video games as an escape from the ca-ca. She is also a big hypocrite - she makes remarks about my son's weight, but she herself is about 50 lbs overweight - and she explains this away to my son by saying that since there's no gas in the apartment, she can't cook healthier meals. Seriously.
I have confronted my ex before to try to improve this situation, but all he does is run to her and relay all the conversations regarding our son back to her, which just gives her more "material" for her self-imposed duty as pseudo- psychoanalyst to my son. My son wants to record some of these chat-sessions because he thinks they are unbelievable. I'm not sure yet how I want to handle this situation but I know I'm not going to discuss it with my ex (for now, because he'll just run to his gf and tell her everything I said as if my concerns as a parent are some big joke).
Does anyone have anything similar that they have dealt with? I am really getting irritated by this woman's quest to interfere with the parenting of my and my ex's son. He's only there every other weekend, btw. I'd rather not include anyone in the immediate family in this until I have a better handle on it, because news travels fast and I don't want it to get back to my ex and his gf.
Let me just say....YES. My ex husbands wife is a psyco that would rival that of anthony perkins in the movie (but she doesnt wear a wig). When my ex and her first got married she tried this with my kiddos. It was annoying and made them feel really uncomfortable. My ex wouldnt do anything because he was afraid of ticking her off (and she might come after him in the night with a steak knife). Finally, one day I just called her up and let her have it over the phone. I dont think that is what really got her to stop. What did was me telling her that I would keep calling her everytime this happened. I once called her at 6am to "discuss" some advice she gave my son....that did it. She is freaked out that Im going to bug her she leaves them alone now.
It sounds like she'd be a perfect set up for playing games with her by faking illnesses for her to cure. Something one of my sons did to us was to fake Tourette Syndrome as a way to get out doing something. He was hilarious, except for the language. I'd research a series of symptoms for her to "cure." Once she "cured" it, I'd go to another set of symptoms. Eventually she'd catch on and hopefully be convinced to stop. At minimum, your son and you should get a good laugh out of it. Just don't fake anything that could come back to bite you.
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), and she would just glare at me when I would drop my son off, of course I always smiled and waved at her...he..he !!! Finally, my son decided on his own he didn't want to visit dad's anymore, so I didn't make him. I'm not suggesting your son should stop visits, I'm just telling you what happened with my sitch. 
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