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Well in my college years from 18-21 I was almost the same as I am now. It's a genetic or developmental variant, just as gay guys are. The difference is that straight or gay, all those guys think about sex constantly. As for me, the few times I tried sex pretty much confirmed that it wasn't for me. People are freaked out by, or confused upon knowing me. There's also energy associated with this as no one ever tries to set me up on a date or hits on me. Perhaps being 6'7" tall scares them off. If someone's asexual, it seems to deter sexual advances, rather than fuel them.
I personally LOVE tall men! My last boyfriend was about 6'3", and I thought he was incredibly hot... also dated 2 guys around 6'5", and they were just right. Too bad they didn't have the right personalities to match, LOL. Anyway, I don't think you should give up yet, since you could meet the perfect tall-guy-loving woman tomorrow.
WOW! What's your secret? I can't get it out of my mind at times, no matter how much I'd love to "just say no!" LOL! Then again, perhaps it comes with the territory of being 20 and in college?
Perhaps my website can be of assisance? In your case, should I assume there can never be procreative mating? I plan to stay a virgin and wont be mating anyone of either gender, my website has all the facts to attest to the reason why choosing abstinence is the way to go. Wanna know what turns me on? Cuddling with a sweet woman that has ample curves
I will never marry and never mate for any reason because I dont want to procreate, dont want children. Do want to meet up with sweet women and date or just stay home and cuddle!!!!!!!!
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Well in my college years from 18-21 I was almost the same as I am now. It's a genetic or developmental variant, just as gay guys are. The difference is that straight or gay, all those guys think about sex constantly. As for me, the few times I tried sex pretty much confirmed that it wasn't for me. People are freaked out by, or confused upon knowing me. There's also energy associated with this as no one ever tries to set me up on a date or hits on me. Perhaps being 6'7" tall scares them off. If someone's asexual, it seems to deter sexual advances, rather than fuel them.
Ive never had the "horny" problem and I dont really lust unless you consider checking out full figured women and wondering about cuddling them I do express my condolences for your loss of virginity. I am not even curious to see what mating is like, I would head right for the psychiatrist long before anything "happened" if I begin to have those dirty, perverse, disturbing thoughts of lust. Gross!
Actually even in my dreams I choose abstinence. Had one dream where I was in the limo with this pretty lady and she said lets have....... and I said eeeeeeeeeeeew! Repeat. Then I told the limo driver to stop and I opened the door and ran all the way back home! Yup I am assured that I am normal and have a clean mind
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I've been single mainly to focus on myself, since you can't really have a successful relationship until that happens. I had a lot to take care of, like my education & career, and dating would've only distracted me. Now that things are falling into place, I'm about ready to "hit the market" again... anyone know a nice, attractive, Jewish professional man in Northern California?
Ill be honored to cuddle with a sweet, curvy lady like you. If I ever vacation in CA or you ever come down to FL or wherever im living, we can surely be friends and enjoy cuddling
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Ill be honored to cuddle with a sweet, curvy lady like you. If I ever vacation in CA or you ever come down to FL or wherever im living, we can surely be friends and enjoy cuddling
Hmmmmm....could there be a C-D love connection in the making here? NAH- are you tall and Jewish? I've seen pix of Gizmo and she doesn't look out of proportion. Curvy, as most women are, but not big. But a few winters being snowbound in Oil city could solve that issue.
Well in my college years from 18-21 I was almost the same as I am now. It's a genetic or developmental variant, just as gay guys are. The difference is that straight or gay, all those guys think about sex constantly. As for me, the few times I tried sex pretty much confirmed that it wasn't for me. People are freaked out by, or confused upon knowing me. There's also energy associated with this as no one ever tries to set me up on a date or hits on me. Perhaps being 6'7" tall scares them off. If someone's asexual, it seems to deter sexual advances, rather than fuel them.
Do you mean to say you NEVER have ANY interest in sex? Sex is much more exciting them forums on the Internet anyday.
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I guess it's like anything else. Me? I don't like mushrooms. I'm not making light of asexuality and don't mean to, so please don't take it that way.
I believe that sexuality is a gift from God, Mother Nature, however you look at it, and can be a beautiful thing. It can also be a down and dirty physical release. NAH, I'm sorry that's how you look at it.
Anyway....I was married for 20 years to the wrong person. Nice guy, we just should have stayed friends. Was single for a year and dated quite a bit (not an easy thing to do at 40, believe me). Swore I'd never marry again. Met DH 12 years ago this month, have not been apart since. There was just a special connection with this man. He has a wonderful soul. We did a really crazy thing and got married less than 3 months later. I still don't believe we did that! But it works for us. I think though, if and when the unthinkable happens and I'm alone again, I'll stay single. But who knows? Maybe he'll be the one left behind.
Best of luck to all. Happiness does come from within yourself; you cannot rely on anyone or anything else to bring it to you.
Scranton, I can't believe you're in your early 20's...you sound so much more mature! But, I gotta tell ya, those hormones can rage, can't they??? There will be day they'll slow down.
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You know, this is a very pertinent thread in my own life. I was brought up around many family and friends who treated being single as a disease, almost. If I didn't have a girlfriend, I could forget about ever being included in anything, and sometimes I was downright made fun of for it. I was never really comfortable with being alone.
So, that led to the oh-so-healthy "if I had a girlfriend/wife, I'd be happy" syndrome. So I got a girlfriend who became my wife, and she pretty much had the same syndrome going on. Needless to say, the marriage was a huge mistake because instead of being comfortable and happy with myself, I looked for my happiness in another person. That can't work, and I learned that the hard way.
Now, I'm kind of enjoying single-ness. I have the freedom to explore, make major, dramatic life decisions, and I don't have to answer to anyone. That's nice. I'm also finding things out about myself that I never knew before, which is nice, too. Hopefully, when it's meant to happen, this "alone time" will make my next relationship a lot better, whenever that might be.
Do you mean to say you NEVER have ANY interest in sex? Sex is much more exciting them forums on the Internet anyday.
Let me put it this way, if I date a girl and she wants to invite me in for the night it's less exciting than if she says "we're going bowling". I gave sex a good try, but the lack of interest prevented anything from penetrating for sure. No matter how cute, or how big her headlights are it does not matter. I have been dragged into "jiggles" by friends and casual eating at "hooters" but trust me, nothing's stirring inside. Sex isn't disgusting, it's just boring. Kissing does nothing for me, might as well kiss a stack of money. Food is a lot better than sex.
Let me put it this way, if I date a girl and she wants to invite me in for the night it's less exciting than if she says "we're going bowling". I gave sex a good try, but the lack of interest prevented anything from penetrating for sure. No matter how cute, or how big her headlights are it does not matter. I have been dragged into "jiggles" by friends and casual eating at "hooters" but trust me, nothing's stirring inside. Sex isn't disgusting, it's just boring. Kissing does nothing for me, might as well kiss a stack of money. Food is a lot better than sex.
I get that. That's how I felt the my first few years of "getting jiggy". I thought "Why do people talk about this so much?" Was not until my fiance that I "got it". But I am a woman and I think caring about someone makes it better. You know most guys just want to get a piece of ass and could care less about the woman. Being in love makes me want to get physical. Leads to that because I'm a snuggler. But I can do most of my snuggling with my 4 wonderful fur-kids. And they wont cheat on me, brake my heart or ruin my life.
Food can be very good. I'm not a big eater and can go all day without eating and it be 5:00 and realize I've had nothing. But when I'm really hungry or have a taste for something it's really good!
Oh yikes, I feel like I've just walked into an alternate universe!!!!
Food, sex, abstinence, happiness? Yes all of the above. I had a pretty good "house husband" for a long while, then things went south. So I went south. Now, I'm still single and frighteningly content, to the degree that I need to do a reality check occasionally.
My funny situation these days, since I don't have time to start a new relationship right now, is spending time with two ex boyfriends who have become my most excellent friends - separately, of course. The boys delight me no end and drive me crazy. And not in the way your dirty minds think.
I mean, when they come to visit, instantly there are piles of clothes on the floor in the living room, they're drinking out of my measuring cups, the cabinet doors are open, there's a shovel in the laundry room, all the lights are left on, and I'm sleeping on the sofa to get away from the snoring. Did I mention the toilet seat? UP. (Well, to be fair, one puts it back down.) Thank goodness I have two bathrooms. They're both terribly eccentric, I love them both dearly, and I am so freaking happy to have my house back to myself again.
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My last boyfriend was about 6'3", and I thought he was incredibly hot... also dated 2 guys around 6'5", and they were just right. Too bad they didn't have the right personalities to match, LOL. Anyway, I don't think you should give up yet, since you could meet the perfect tall-guy-loving woman tomorrow. 
I can't get it out of my mind at times, no matter how much I'd love to "just say no!" LOL! Then again, perhaps it comes with the territory of being 20 and in college? 
