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Old 12-09-2008, 03:37 PM
 
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I never used to. Christmas was my favorite time of year up until a few years ago. What's changed I'm not exactly sure, though I have some ideas. I'm not in my hometown, events in my life have me overwhelmed, my wife and I are not into the partying scene so much anymore, our kids are way past Santa Claus, and Christmas with it's commercialization seems like too much work.

I know I sound like a Scrooge, and I'm a little turned off by my tone myself, but does anyone feel the same? Anybody think back to holidays of your past and wonder why it's just not so enjoyable anymore? Anybody else out there who would pay big money just to be able to skip it this year?
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Old 12-09-2008, 03:39 PM
 
Location: Incognito
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To me they're just a any day.
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Old 12-09-2008, 03:41 PM
 
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To me they're just a any day.
I envy you. How do you get away with it?
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Old 12-09-2008, 03:50 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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This is my first Christmas without my sister who died last March so this Christmas is very numb feeling for me. I can't get into it. I know I should keep my focus on the true reason for Christmas and I will in my own way, but celebrate like I used to? Not this year.
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Old 12-09-2008, 03:52 PM
 
Location: Cumberland Co. TN
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I never used to. Christmas was my favorite time of year up until a few years ago. What's changed I'm not exactly sure, though I have some ideas. I'm not in my hometown, events in my life have me overwhelmed, my wife and I are not into the partying scene so much anymore, our kids are way past Santa Claus, and Christmas with it's commercialization seems like too much work.

I know I sound like a Scrooge, and I'm a little turned off by my tone myself, but does anyone feel the same? Anybody think back to holidays of your past and wonder why it's just not so enjoyable anymore? Anybody else out there who would pay big money just to be able to skip it this year?
I use to feel that way, but have learned not to let the commercialism and stress and scrooges get to me anymore and really just try to feel the spirit behind the holidays.

Holidays use to be more enjoyable because mom did all the work.
Mom and Dad are gone, my kids are grown, my dh is divorcing me, I have no money for gifts, but Im going to put up lights and the biggest live tree I can find. Christmas day Im going to have a feast and invite all my rowdy and homeless friends.
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Old 12-09-2008, 03:53 PM
 
Location: Austin
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This is my first Christmas without my sister who died last March so this Christmas is very numb feeling for me. I can't get into it. I know I should keep my focus on the true reason for Christmas and I will in my own way, but celebrate like I used to? Not this year.
I'm sorry for your loss ((hugs)).
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Old 12-09-2008, 04:04 PM
 
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This is my first Christmas without my sister who died last March so this Christmas is very numb feeling for me. I can't get into it. I know I should keep my focus on the true reason for Christmas and I will in my own way, but celebrate like I used to? Not this year.
Yeah, life happens 364 days a year and we are supposed to forget about it all in one day. There's such a pressure to be happy, sometimes this world, and it seems like more so all the time, just won't let you be.

I am sorry about your sister. Just about everybody important in my life, my dad and his mother, my mother's parents who raised me, my cousin who was my closest, have all died around the holidays, it does make it harder. But let me be one of the first to wish you a happy holiday.
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Old 12-09-2008, 04:08 PM
 
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I use to feel that way, but have learned not to let the commercialism and stress and scrooges get to me anymore and really just try to feel the spirit behind the holidays.

Holidays use to be more enjoyable because mom did all the work.
Mom and Dad are gone, my kids are grown, my dh is divorcing me, I have no money for gifts, but Im going to put up lights and the biggest live tree I can find. Christmas day Im going to have a feast and invite all my rowdy and homeless friends.
I'm sorry you're having such a rough time right now, but I sure do salute your spirit in the face of it. Rowdy friends? Sounds like just what I need right now. That's just the way to kick Xmas in the behind and show it who's boss.
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Old 12-09-2008, 04:10 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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They used to be very important to me. They used to include family. It has been hard since the death of my parents, as Thanksgiving was always the 'family' holiday. Now that they are gone, I spend it with my brothers and sisters, but it is still not the same. My kids with their father, I did not see them either this year.

Christmas. It will be the same scenario. The holiday season has been a tough one for me since 1995. I do not imagine that is likely to change, although there is newness. There are additions. Its the subtractions that are so difficult.
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Old 12-09-2008, 04:12 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I used to love the holidays. As a matter of fact, having a nicely decorated house and holiday traditions used to be a dream of mine. We didn’t really have traditions in my parents’ home. Such were the times. Christmas being a religious holiday wasn’t supposed to be celebrated if you were hoping for some advancement in life. There was more of an emphasis on New Year’s Eve. Hmm, coming full circle on this one here now, too, aren’t I…. No Christmas for you!

As I’ve mentioned before, the home of my dreams didn’t turn out the way I wanted it during my marriages. Now I’m nesting on my own and doing my best. It’s still not everything I’d love (I can’t hang lights on my house, for example), but it’s close and I enjoy it. Built my first gingerbread house I’ve been meaning to make for years. Love the lights inside, the smells of food, the holiday music…. However, no matter what you do to get yourself into a cheerful state of mind, being alone is simply not ideal, particularly now that my parents are gone, too. Even if we weren’t together, it’s still nice to know there are some people somewhere who care about you. What is ideal is to have somebody equally warm and excited with you to enjoy all this together. Unfortunately, in my experience so far it’s been an either/or situation. To make the long story short, yes, the holidays do make me a bit sad and as if they’re not enough, I’ve got a birthday thrown in the middle of them. Yeah, on some level I wouldn’t mind welcoming January.
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