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Old 12-12-2008, 08:32 AM
 
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I thought the list was pretty good except for #19

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Warning Sign #19: He doesn't meet all of the qualities you've dreamed for in a husband.
That just seems a bit unrealistic.

I enjoyed the NT Times article too.

This is a gem:

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People are the same after marriage as before, only more so.
People who are dating should be required to walk around wearing t-shirts imprinted with that slogan.
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Old 12-12-2008, 08:32 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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huh?
Just what I said. The best of them tend to feel VERY right!
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Old 12-12-2008, 08:34 AM
 
Location: NY metro area
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What's wrong with that ? I thought all you feminists
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Sign #___: He's overly presumptuous.

LOL!!!!
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Old 12-12-2008, 08:37 AM
 
Location: Wichita,Kansas
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Sign # 21 if you catch him wearing your panties....Run
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Old 12-12-2008, 08:40 AM
 
Location: NY metro area
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Warning Sign #15: He has a problem with pornography.

This is a tough one because you might not even know about it. But, if you have ever caught him with pornography or found it on his computer, that's a sign this guy isn't for you. If he does admit he has a problem and is seeking treatment, speak with a counselor about continuing the relationship.

I don't necessarily agree with this "warning sign". Just because a man views porn on his computer, it doesn't mean he has a problem.
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Old 12-12-2008, 09:31 AM
 
Location: North Carolina
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What's wrong with that ? I thought all you feminists want to do everything that men do. Picking up the check on a date is as manly as it gets. Only traditional old fashioned women who reject 1960s style radical feminist values thinks the guy should always pay for everything on a date. Don't you want to be equal to men ?
Wow, you have a very black and white view on this, huh? Either the woman pays for everything or the man pays for everything? Whatever happened to splitting things evenly and having a mutual contribution?

I think she is just trying to say that men can be moochers too! If you wind up paying for everything ALL the time, whether you're a man or a woman, you've likely got a moocher on your hands.

True feminism is about equality, something that is seemingly lost on you. Equality does not mean the woman pays for everything, nor does it mean the man paying for everything. It means both genders should be contributing.

This is the article I tend to show people, called "Warning Signs You're Dating A Loser", it addresses issues on BOTH genders: Warning Signs That You\'re Dating a Loser (http://www.mental-health-matters.com/articles/article.php?artID=157 - broken link)
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Old 12-12-2008, 09:33 AM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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oh, ok. I wasn't trying to be smug, I'm just saying I don't want to settle for a jerk. (mr wrong)


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Just what I said. The best of them tend to feel VERY right!
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Old 12-12-2008, 09:39 AM
 
Location: NY metro area
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This is the article I tend to show people, called "Warning Signs You're Dating A Loser", it addresses issues on BOTH genders: Warning Signs That You\'re Dating a Loser (http://www.mental-health-matters.com/articles/article.php?artID=157 - broken link)
That totally describes my sister's husband...and we all (family & friends) wish she'd divorce his ass. I so wish I could email that article to her, but I think the title alone would just make her angry at me, despite her being at the end of her rope. She has some glimmer of hope that she can make it work and as the article states, when she mentions the D-word or "lawyer", he goes into panic mode...it's a bad cycle.


ETA: great article by the way!
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Old 12-12-2008, 09:45 AM
 
Location: North Carolina
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That totally describes my sister's husband...and we all (family & friends) wish she'd divorce his ass. I so wish I could email that article to her, but I think the title alone would just make her angry at me, despite her being at the end of her rope. She has some glimmer of hope that she can make it work and as the article states, when she mentions the D-word or "lawyer", he goes into panic mode...it's a bad cycle.
Yeah, unfortunately someone in that situation will only leave when they are ready. Even worse, some are never ready. I hope someday she'll be ready.
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Old 12-12-2008, 09:47 AM
 
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What's wrong with that ? I thought all you feminists want to do everything that men do. Picking up the check on a date is as manly as it gets. Only traditional old fashioned women who reject 1960s style radical feminist values thinks the guy should always pay for everything on a date. Don't you want to be equal to men ?
Oh no you di-dn't...

Back away slowly...
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