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Old 12-26-2008, 10:50 PM
Location: In my skin
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Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948 View Post
great post but the the 20 sins (i read it) cover just about anybody including brad pitt and tom cruise.
the problem is most women find mr right just plain boring and find mr wrong exciting and fun.
Sign # ____. He's thinks those 20 red flags apply to "just about anybody." and Mr. Wrong is "exciting and fun".
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Old 12-26-2008, 10:54 PM
Location: In my skin
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Originally Posted by plaidmom View Post
I thought the list was pretty good except for #19

That just seems a bit unrealistic.

I enjoyed the NT Times article too.

This is a gem:

People who are dating should be required to walk around wearing t-shirts imprinted with that slogan.
Amen, the person you meet is rarely ever the same person you leave (or has left you.).
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Old 12-26-2008, 11:02 PM
Location: In my skin
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Originally Posted by cpg35223 View Post
Here's one I'm surprised no one has brought up for either men or women:

-- He/She is inconsiderate of others. I don't mean that the SO has to behave like Miss Manners or Politenessman all the time. However, that person needs to move through life not assuming the world revolves around them. The tip-offs?

1) Never on time, and not even close. Time is the stuff life is made of. Somebody who cannot be reasonably punctual is one of two things--either inconsiderate of your time or chronically disorganized. Neither quality is fun to have in a relationship.

2) The Waiter Test. If you've been on this board enough, you've heard of this foolproof litmus test: Go to a restaurant on a 3rd or 4th date and watch how your date treats the waiter. In six months, that's how that person will be treating you. Don't be snowed. Right now, they're still on their best behavior with you.

3) Does not return phone calls/e-mails. Now, be reasonable here. If you call at 9 in the morning on a workday, you shouldn't expect a call by 9:15. But sometime within 24 hours is totally reasonable if you have a relationship with that person.

4) Always nebulous about plans. People need a little bit of certainty. Sure, it's okay to be spontaneous every once in a while. But all the time gets a little exhausting.

5) Never says 'please' or 'thank you.' Heck, it's more important to be courteous to your SO, not less. A person who cannot acknowledge gratitude is somebody who you just don't want in your life for very long...unless you just like being treated like the hired help.

6) Talks about people behind their backs. So, what is he/she saying about you?

7) Uses the term, "To be honest with you," a lot. This is a person who regards truth as something to be rationed out. You'll never get a straight answer from this person, only spin.
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Old 10-04-2009, 09:48 AM
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If a guy keeps asking you if you bruise easily and warns numerously how you don't want to open up that box when it comes to rough lovemaking... you might want to run. Dude was scared even to smack my butt which shows he has another side to him. He was afraid his actions would would hurt me. My opinion, anyway.

Last edited by Almadesouls; 10-04-2009 at 09:49 AM.. Reason: correcting tenses
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Old 10-04-2009, 09:55 AM
Location: Pa
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Originally Posted by Whyte Byrd View Post
Sign #___: He's overly presumptuous.
Aahahah...no one wants a bum.
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Old 10-04-2009, 10:26 AM
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Originally Posted by sierraAZ View Post
Don't be so smug! The best Mr. Wrongs resemble so much Mr. Rights.
Exactly. And sometimes one has no way of knowing beforehand.
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Old 10-04-2009, 10:32 AM
Location: right under the ceiling fan ;)
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Here are some signs that you are dating Mr.WRONG (just to name a few):

- He tells you what to wear
- He is controlling
- He is superficial about looks
- He is unhygenic
- He wants you to pay for everything
- He only wants sex
- He is a male gold digger
- He is a jerk
- He is very insesitive
- He goes on and on how great he is and how hot he is
- He goes on and on how great hollywood is
- He is mean to his family for no reason
- He hates animals and children
- He is a pessimist
- He is too serious (meaning he does not like to joke around)
- He refuses to work because of SHEAR laziness
- He plays video games ALLLLLL DAY long
- He thinks that the world owes him
- he hates to clean
- He still lives with his mommy and refuses to move out cause she does everything for him

Again this is just to name a few!
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Old 10-04-2009, 11:17 AM
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#4: He criticizes you.

This is fine if the criticism is constructive and not meant to be hurtful or belittling and isn't frequent. It's normal to expect our loved ones to tell us when we're making a mistake, especially if they're looking out for our best interests. But there are some people, men and women, who can't handle any criticism and that isn't healthy.

#10: Your family/friends don't like him.

It depends on why they don't like him. If it's because of the color of his skin or the fact that he's been married before and/or has kids, then you need to ask yourself if what your family and friends think is really that important to you.
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Old 10-04-2009, 02:19 PM
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Originally Posted by TheImportersWife View Post
I don't necessarily agree with this "warning sign". Just because a man views porn on his computer, it doesn't mean he has a problem.
Hi TheImportersWife,

I think the statistic is about 70% of men view it at one time or another. I doubt it even includes the so called swim suit issues. I fail to see much difference and that eats into the remaining 30% who of course are likely a population containing low sex drives or other such influences. Men are basically programed to like the way a beautiful women looks naked.
That aside the more HC stuff does start to show hostility towards women. I view that as being somewhat harmful. However in general an attractive woman with nothing on is going to have its affect on men. Few of them will react with disgust. How men act upon it is the question. I would love to reassure my wife that I find every other woman is disgusting but its not really true. That is one reason men are with their women in the first place but attaction simply is not a relationship.
Women of course watch their soap operas, chick flicks and read their romance novels. I don't care if my wife see or tells me she sees another man as attractive. That is normal. I just care how she acts on it. I don't grab every french fry that smells good either.
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Old 10-04-2009, 02:35 PM
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Do we really need 20 signs before it sinks in? At the most I can name that tune in 2 or 3.
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