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I think you spelled out the problem right there. Having the mental state of "desperate to get married" is going to have women diving through plate glass windows to escape you. Nobody likes desperate people and that is a major turn off for women. I would guarantee if you are thinking desperate, you are acting desperate and women being the intuitive creatures they are, are reading that vibe from a mile away and fleeing in a stampede.
Second, you have to walk before you run, so before you get married you have to date and have a relationship, before engagement and marriage. You're thinking 10 bridges down the road and you haven't even got to the first one. What I find in life is things don't happen with military precision, especially when dealing with women. I'd focus on getting your dating and pick up skills on par before thinking about marriage.
Someone telling me they are lonely is a huge warning sign for me. If a woman tells me she is lonely, I do a runner. What that tells me is it's someone who doesn't like their own company and doesn't have enough interesting things of their own to keep them occupied. And if I get in a relationship with them, I'll have to sink a lot of effort into keeping them occupied, not to mention having to deal with their codependent habits.
If you don't WANT to be lonely it's an easy fix. Get involved with community volunteering, find new hobbies, join clubs, find a new job that you deal with people more frequently, etc. There are countless ways to solve that. There is really no excuse to be "lonely".
So I can't find a wife but ah, I can sublimate the need to share my life with a special someone by joining the chess club?
Wow. You equate beer, autos and sports with porn. All in the same sentence. Now I've never met you, but it sounds like you're sort of talking down to regular guy stuff.
You know what I did today? I changed my oil. You know what I'm gonna do Sunday? Watch football. I might have a beer or two.
Marry me?
But seriously, I wouldn't date a guy who's not into "guy stuff" (not necessarily porn) like sports. I like sports myself so I want someone I have things in common with. Sure, a fancy night on the town all dressed up and theater tickets is great, but I need a balance between that and regular ordinary "guy stuff", barbeques with friends on the back patio, sporting events, etc. It's also nice if he has other guy friends to hang out with so I can have time for my "girly" hobbies when he's not around.
To the OP: Yes it's true, in their younger years. But we get fed up with the abuse one day and the cycle stops. If you look at a bunch of women between 35-40, you might see that they are tired of being used, abused, cheated on and lied to and ready and willing to accept the sweet guy they wouldn't give a second look to when they were in high school. Trust me, it's true. I know that I have no tolerance for abusive men anymore. Yes, it's true that Scott Peterson has a whole fan club of groupies. Sure it's insane beyond measure. But don't lose hope. I am ready for the "good ones" and never was that much of a bad-boy chaser to begin with. Anyway, my emotionally abusive ex, I've found out, has got a new honey and despite his attitude, women must go after him. Go figure. I wish you the best.
To the OP: Yes it's true, in their younger years. But we get fed up with the abuse one day and the cycle stops. If you look at a bunch of women between 35-40, you might see that they are tired of being used, abused, cheated on and lied to and ready and willing to accept the sweet guy they wouldn't give a second look to when they were in high school. Trust me, it's true. I know that I have no tolerance for abusive men anymore. Yes, it's true that Scott Peterson has a whole fan club of groupies. Sure it's insane beyond measure. But don't lose hope. I am ready for the "good ones" and never was that much of a bad-boy chaser to begin with. Anyway, my emotionally abusive ex, I've found out, has got a new honey and despite his attitude, women must go after him. Go figure. I wish you the best.
I need more than wishes, what can another "best wish" do?
Thank you anyway but if you really wish to help me then could you please tell a lonely woman about me?
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