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Old 12-15-2008, 11:06 AM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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good points! I learned alot from that, too! I had a gf that bought expensive (jewelry, cell phones, camcorders) items for the guys she dated. Unfortunately they were only using her for sex and expensive gifts.
I felt soooo bad for her, but she wouldn't listen to me when I told her to stop. I don't think she's done that for a long time now, thank goodness.
But watching that, I NEVER bought my bf's items like that, no way!



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When I was in high school, my father gave me the wise words of "Stay away from boys. You don't want to have to deal with that crap now." I'm so glad I never got involved in "relationships" or was sexually active in my teen years.

My husband has taught me A LOT...as a partner and as a friend. From a relationship standpoint, when we were dating, but exclusive, he told me there were no "breaks". Either we communicate and work it out together or we split for good.

Otherwise I learned what not to do by observing others.
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Old 12-15-2008, 11:11 AM
 
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I've learned that life's too short to worry about guys. Especially when it somes to guys not calling, breaking dates, cheating, etc.
I don't put up with that behavior. When I was younger, I held on to this guy I thought was my bf, he didn't treat me well at all, making no effort at all in the "relationship", so finally I "ended" it, even though it didn't feel like anything anyway! and after that and a few losers I let get close to me, I just decided, you know what? I am no longer going to accept this behavior. I am going to empower myself by not caring about these losers, not calling them, etc. Now I have adaopted a "don't give a s**t" attitude, meaning if the guy doesn't call me, just want to have sex, etc, I stop contact immediately (don't give a s**t). I forget his name and number, and move on.
then when they call 2 -3 months later (which most of them do) I have already forgotten who they were!
Sooo true, my cousin told me that men are like handbags..if it doesn't match up then put it away and pick out a new one.
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Old 12-15-2008, 11:14 AM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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yes, new ones always come along. but unlike a Coach bag, the guys don't last!! ha! ha!




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Sooo true, my cousin told me that men are like handbags..if it doesn't match up then put it away and pick out a new one.
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Old 12-15-2008, 11:24 AM
 
Location: Custer, SD
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Men have taught me not to trust what they say, but to watch them and make my decisions based on what they do.
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Old 12-15-2008, 11:29 AM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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another good point!


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Men have taught me not to trust what they say, but to watch them and make my decisions based on what they do.
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Old 12-15-2008, 11:33 AM
 
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Yes actions speak louder than words..always!
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Old 12-15-2008, 11:35 AM
 
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yes, new ones always come along. but unlike a Coach bag, the guys don't last!! ha! ha!
LOL..I learned that when I met 4 interesting guys over the weekend..men really are a dime a dozen
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Old 12-15-2008, 11:45 AM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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yep, I met 2 myself! but it's the quality ones that are few and far between!



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LOL..I learned that when I met 4 interesting guys over the weekend..men really are a dime a dozen
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Old 12-15-2008, 11:52 AM
 
Location: Custer, SD
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And sometimes even the quality ones require a bit of patience (and I *do* know the door swings both ways!).
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Old 12-15-2008, 11:53 AM
 
Location: USA
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Men have taught me strength, patience, tolerance and to trust my intuition.

I have no beefs with men as a whole where I would blanket statement. Being jaded (or not) is an individual decision and I choose to not be. Being jaded is way too restrictive of a way for me to live. I've been lied to, cheated on, been through hell and back, blah-bloo-dee-blah. . . umm, sooo what? Boo-hoo-wah for me. Only one man was a part for that very small 20 years of my life VS what I hope to have ahead of me. What I have learned from that is just that - one man was a part of it. I cannot relate with the "once bitten, twice shy" train of thought that I see some other women possess. I prefer to make lemonade with my lemons. My absolute fave saying is, "if you keep one foot on yesterday and one foot on tomorrow - you will p*ss all over today." It's true.
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