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Old 12-15-2008, 04:23 PM
 
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Okay, this has been on my mind for awhile...just a hypothetical question:

You have been going with a fellow for a month or so, and you like him. He is well into his 20s. He never mentions anything about his past relationships. After a month, he tells you that he really enjoys being around you and everything is going great...but he wants you to know something. He had never had a girlfriend until you and is still a virgin and never even kissed a girl.

Would that change things at all? Would you just shrug and say "ohh well, better late than never" or would you be weirded out and bounce?

Reason I ask is because...well...I will probably be in that situation (I hope) sooner or later. I'm 27 and never kissed a girl, never had a girlfriend, and never really been on a date and, or course, I'm a virgin. It's just that were I live the females are...well, let's just say that in Jersey the women aren't the most intellectual creatures to say the least and are too busy chasing guys like this--->
YouTube - My New Haircut to ever consider anything remotely different. Maybe Seattle will be better (I hope)

Anyway, I have a bunch of guys ('my new haircut' guys, granted) telling me that no woman would ever be with a man who has no experience. But like...what do I do? I would never tell a woman I just met anything about my past, or lack there of, but after awhile, I would, just to be honest.


But, without thinking about my background info, honestly, what would you do if a man confessed to you that he had no experience what so ever? Would it change things?
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Old 12-15-2008, 04:28 PM
 
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You should be asking the guys how to score too.

Also never tell a woman you have had no experience. That just sounds awful and weird. Give yourself some credit even if some of it is imagined.
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Old 12-15-2008, 04:28 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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I wouldn't tell someone on a first date. I would wait until I knew her a little bit before I told her my life history. Your friends are wrong. We ladies are still welcoming and open to guys who've never had relationships and girlfriends. In fact, sometimes it's preferable.
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Old 12-15-2008, 04:29 PM
 
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So I am really hot and desirable from what you are saying

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I wouldn't tell someone on a first date. I would wait until I knew her a little bit before I told her my life history. Your friends are wrong. We ladies are still welcoming and open to guys who've never had relationships and girlfriends. In fact, sometimes it's preferable.
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Old 12-15-2008, 04:30 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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So I am really hot and desirable from what you are saying
In my best Napoleon Dynamite voice ........ YESSSSSSSSS.
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Old 12-15-2008, 04:33 PM
 
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Asked in my best Pat voice
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In my best Napoleon Dynamite voice ........ YESSSSSSSSS.
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Old 12-15-2008, 04:34 PM
 
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It wouldn't bother me in the least. Some might be scared off for fear he might need more experience with other women and end up ditching them when he gains his confidence but you know, that happens with experienced men too. Besides, experience, to me, is more than just notches in a headboard.
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Old 12-15-2008, 04:35 PM
 
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You should be asking the guys how to score too.

Also never tell a woman you have have had no experience. That just sounds awful and weird. Give yourself some credit even if some of it is imagined.

First of all, I don't want to "score" as much as I would like to have an actual girlfriend.


Second...so you're saying I should be dishonest?
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Old 12-15-2008, 04:38 PM
 
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This hypothetical question should hide it and if asked then he should lie and say he has been with hundreds of girls, so many in fact that he has lost count.
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Old 12-15-2008, 04:38 PM
 
Location: Happiness is found inside your smile :)
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If I was young and in my EARLY 20s then it's fine

There are probably a bunch of women in their 20s who don't have experience either.

You probably should look for younger women anyhow (this part is not meant to be mean) but because you are inexperienced you don't have the maturity yet that older girls would seek out. So look for girls on the same "playing level"

Now if you ask me back when I was 27 if I would have dated you - ummm no. At 27 I'd been around the block A LOT, and I was dating mature, very experienced men usually ten years older then me, back then
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