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I could go for an eastern european chick (that actually grew up in say Romania, Ukraine, Russia, or any of the former soviet satellites). Finding a good Americanized/Western woman is pretty tough in this day and age. Way too many entitled princesses over here. Funny thing is, I'd treat you like one if only you could tone down the bow to the queen mentality. I want a self made woman that had to work for everything she's got. A genuine Christian that gives a damn about others, but can also discern where she is really needed. A woman that has a spirit that won't break. A woman with amazing faith. A woman who worries not about the things she doesn't control. A free spirit. Affectionate, natural beauty, displays modesty/humility when praised, and can share with me anything on her mind (and vice versa).
Well, yeah. These are differences the size of the Grand Canyon. Such relationships work only in sappy movies.
Yanno, I suspect it might make a difference in where you are in your stage of life. I've accomplished most everything I intend to in a business sense and am ready to retire. I've gone to all the high society dinners I care to ever attend. I don't need a social secretary/wife to entertain the governor's wife.
My wife is amused when a U.S. Senator corners me and strikes up a conversation about "the good old days", just as I'm amused when some pot-head hales my wife at the grocery store to ask her what she's been up to lately. She gets a kick out of my stories of high ranking public officials (some VERY high) who I've known, just as I get a kick out of her experiences as a carefree hippie chick.
We've had extremely different lives, but we're now very much alike. Our past is just that. We respect and love each other, not for what we've done or what we've accomplished, but for who we are today.
It might not have worked in our younger years; I just don't know, but it works very well now. It might have more to do with our goals. Thirty years ago they were quite different, but today they're the same -- to retire and become gypsies.
Sure, it could work (and obviously does for some). Less likely, though.
Especially if the woman is the high-flying ivy league yadda yadda one and the dude has no cash. A lot of men don't like that. And the more blue collar the background, the less they like that, it seems.
I don't think I could date someone that much different from myself. Have I dated other races/ethnicities? Yeah. But their families were all very similar to mine in socialeconomical status and education. Therefore, we both looked at the world through very Americanized middle class eyes, just with slightly different perspectives due to cultures we were raised in. I just feel that that many differences will lead to clashes about money, friends, even tastes in music. If one is broke and the other fine dines, will the fine diner be okay with paying for everything? If one is a high flying professional with an ivy league masters, will it be acceptable for them to always and forever be the main breadwinner? Or could they end up being resentful of their high school educated partner who isnt "pulling their weight"?
I notice this works better when the man is the more affluent one. I've had female friends date under their "class" and get grief for it from others. The guy ended up with an inferiority complex the whole time too.
I actually to be snobby against rich people, haha. Especially people raised with a silver spoon...I write them off as out-of-touch with regular people. Not fair, I know. People who have had some struggle appeal to me more for some reason. I value industriousness though, so someone who is struggling because they aren't making effort is not someone I'd consider. As for education...that doesn't have to be bought or require a degree. Bottom line for me is, yes, I would do it.
I could go for an eastern european chick (that actually grew up in say Romania, Ukraine, Russia, or any of the former soviet satellites). Finding a good Americanized/Western woman is pretty tough in this day and age. Way too many entitled princesses over here. Funny thing is, I'd treat you like one if only you could tone down the bow to the queen mentality. I want a self made woman that had to work for everything she's got. A genuine Christian that gives a damn about others, but can also discern where she is really needed. A woman that has a spirit that won't break. A woman with amazing faith. A woman who worries not about the things she doesn't control. A free spirit. Affectionate, natural beauty, displays modesty/humility when praised, and can share with me anything on her mind (and vice versa).
You're not serious here?? Or you have never been to Romania, Ukrania, or Russia. These women are princesses defined. They expect luxury, to be totally taken care of; to be fully funded in their visits to the beauty stylist, the manicurist, the upscale gym, the shopping sprees, the vacations.
Most of them can't boil an egg....they've often got fancy college degrees which they plan to use only to snag a husband with money and position who will take care of their every material need happily ever after.
You need to rethink your stereotypes. You're all wet here. Eastern European women are the neediest, most materialistic, self-absorbed women you'll ever meet.
By drastically different I mean:
1. We are of different races. Ones white, the others not.
I am white, my BF is Syrian
2. We are of different educational background. One's ivy league grad with a Master's. The other only has a high school diploma.
My bf has a Masters and he graduated from an Ivy league school. I graduated from HS and a medical assisting program.
3. We are of different profession. One's a high flying professional. The other's a warehouse worker.
My bf is in the stock market and I work with the public.
4. We are of different economic status. One's dining out in fine restaurants. the other's broke and cannot even afford to buy groceries.
If I am broke so is he. If he is broke, so am I
5. We have different circles of friends. One's socializing with bankers, lawyers, and doctors. The other hangs out with construction workers, janitors, and pizza delivery guys.
Sorta like that...
Is it probable for two persons of such different background to become a couple?
It is probable and it has happened.
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