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How do you know it is the right time to tell someone that you love them? Just wondering because I don't want him to think that I am trying to make him feel something he is just not ready to feel. You know what I mean?
Yeah, I guess your right. I'm just new to this relationship thing. I was married for 6 years and now I'm not so clearly I was doing something wrong... Just really like this guy and don't want to mess it up. That's why I was asking. But thanks.
You know what? There comes a point where you just have to put yourself out there. Just make sure it isn't within the first three weeks of knowing the guy, or you'll come off looking like a loon.
Simply say, "Okay. I'm going to say this. I don't know how this is going to come across, but I want to let you know how I feel about things. You don't need to feel obligated to tell me how you feel right away, but I think you should know what's going on with me." Then you tell him.
Yeah, some more cynical posters or the gameplayers might be horrorstruck by the above paragraph. But I just believe it's more important to speak from the heart. If he feels that way about you, he'll tell you. If he's interested in you in a more long-term way, he'll keep pursuing the relationship. If he bolts like a scalded dog, then you have your answer, too. But nothing, and I mean nothing, is worse than just pining away and playing the guessing game with somebody whom you feel is the right person for you. When you love somebody, you really want to get on with it, rather than sit in some limbo for ever and ever. In that sense, bravery is the best course you can take.
Yeah, I guess your right. I'm just new to this relationship thing. I was married for 6 years and now I'm not so clearly I was doing something wrong... Just really like this guy and don't want to mess it up. That's why I was asking. But thanks.
If it was meant to be, you cant mess it up. I don't know your situation personally but just because your marriage failed doesn't mean its 100% your fault most of the time. There are two people in a relationship ya know!
Personally I always liked to know people long enough to find something I hate about them. If I can't find that, I really don't know them as a whole person. SO after you find those annoying things about him and STILL like him. I would say then..whenever that is.
IMO, the woman should never be the first one to say it. It just freaks men out. I'm all for putting yourself out there but let him say it first. If you want him to know, show him with your actions.
How do you know it is the right time to tell someone that you love them? Just wondering because I don't want him to think that I am trying to make him feel something he is just not ready to feel. You know what I mean?
How long have you been dating him? From what I've seen, it's the women that usually feel that they are in love first during the relationship. I think that as long as he is affection towards you and showing you respect and consideration, don't rush into telling him that you love him. I feel that actions speak louder than words, plus I prefer having the man say the L word first. It just means so much more. In addition, I prefer having the man bring up the topic of marriage too. I see way too many couples out there where the woman is champing at the bit to get married, and her boyfriend is just not ready to. And that just makes the woman look desperate.
If you say the L word first, don't you only want to say it as long as you know that he's feeling love for you too? And if he's not in love with you yet, he's going to feel terrible that he doesn't. He may even lie and say the L word back to you to be nice and not hurt your feelings. If you have to say it, tell it to a picture of him, but not to his face.
Be patient, trust your instincts about him and let your man take the lead on this.
WTF??? Why in the world should one gender be the one who should say it first?
'cause you're more used to rejection
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