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I need some serious opinions! I have been with my fiance for almost four years now. I love him more than anything, and would LOVE to spend the rest of my life with him. We've been through many ups and downs, and I know he'd be a great man to be with forever. He's been my strength at my weakest times, and has helped me grow into a woman i've always wanted to be.
Problem is..the ex. We've been friends for almost ten years. He's one of those people that life just keeps bringing back to you. We'll fall out of touch or fight about something and stop speaking for a while, but then, fate just seems to bring us back together. I honestly at this point, would love to be with him, and I really believe he is my soul mate.
This is the part where it gets hard(er!)
Now, I'm a recent college grad, with the debt to go with it. My fiance is starting law school. It would behoove me financially to stay with him. Please keep in mind I love him, and want to be with him. We've been together before law school ideas, so its not why I'm with him.
I've always been one to follow my heart, but I feel like its a no win situation. Do i settle for a man i can live with and have financial security and happiness? Or do i forfeit security and go for it with someone i know will satisfy my every need?
In short...in similar or comparable circumstances, do you vote love or security?
I need some serious opinions! I have been with my fiance for almost four years now. I love him more than anything, and would LOVE to spend the rest of my life with him. We've been through many ups and downs, and I know he'd be a great man to be with forever. He's been my strength at my weakest times, and has helped me grow into a woman i've always wanted to be.
Problem is..the ex. We've been friends for almost ten years. He's one of those people that life just keeps bringing back to you. We'll fall out of touch or fight about something and stop speaking for a while, but then, fate just seems to bring us back together. I honestly at this point, would love to be with him, and I really believe he is my soul mate.
This is the part where it gets hard(er!)
Now, I'm a recent college grad, with the debt to go with it. My fiance is starting law school. It would behoove me financially to stay with him. Please keep in mind I love him, and want to be with him. We've been together before law school ideas, so its not why I'm with him.
I've always been one to follow my heart, but I feel like its a no win situation. Do i settle for a man i can live with and have financial security and happiness? Or do i forfeit security and go for it with someone i know will satisfy my every need?
In short...in similar or comparable circumstances, do you vote love or security?
Really, you love him? Because I thought he was the "or security" guy. But it was nice of you to throw that in after making it very clear you are with him because of the money.
My advice to you is to go with the guy "fate" keeps bringing back into your life, the guy you really love. Let your fiance find someone worthy to spend the rest of his life with.
Trust me, there is no money now, nor was there the past 4 years we've been together. Its 5 years down the line I'm talking about. But I guess I didn't make that very clear. And I wasn't asking for you to determine my worth, just an opinion of what you would do.
Like I said, I do love him, and he's a great guy. If he stayed at his job now and made the same money, I'd still say he's a great guy. Haven't you ever just been stuck between two really great guys? I guess its just hard for some to grasp.
How do you know the ex will satisfy your every need? Is he reliable to stick with you for the long term? Or would you be satisfied with him in and out of your life forever? Just some thoughts...
How do you know the ex will satisfy your every need? Is he reliable to stick with you for the long term? Or would you be satisfied with him in and out of your life forever? Just some thoughts...
He is reliable to stick with me, we've had this talk many, many times. I know he's capable of satisfying my needs because he already does as a friend...and has as a previous lover.
I don't know how i'd feel about him coming in and out of my life. Its hard, I used to think if he just went away, it might be easier. It might.
Why did you and your ex break up? Seems to me, he must be an ex for a reason. I wouldn't throw away love for someone who might just not be there for you during those ups and downs you mentioned.
I need some serious opinions! I have been with my fiance for almost four years now. I love him more than anything, and would LOVE to spend the rest of my life with him. We've been through many ups and downs, and I know he'd be a great man to be with forever. He's been my strength at my weakest times, and has helped me grow into a woman i've always wanted to be.
Problem is..the ex. We've been friends for almost ten years. He's one of those people that life just keeps bringing back to you. We'll fall out of touch or fight about something and stop speaking for a while, but then, fate just seems to bring us back together. I honestly at this point, would love to be with him, and I really believe he is my soul mate.
This is the part where it gets hard(er!)
Now, I'm a recent college grad, with the debt to go with it. My fiance is starting law school. It would behoove me financially to stay with him. Please keep in mind I love him, and want to be with him. We've been together before law school ideas, so its not why I'm with him.
I've always been one to follow my heart, but I feel like its a no win situation. Do i settle for a man i can live with and have financial security and happiness? Or do i forfeit security and go for it with someone i know will satisfy my every need?
In short...in similar or comparable circumstances, do you vote love or security?
It seems you just want to be with your ex and your bf is just a "security blanket", and he probably doesn't deserve that. Too much doubts when you are supposed to be in love.
I think that's exactly what will happen if she marries the fiance. I think that she should back away from both of them and figure out what it is that she really wants, and then go for that. The way she is going now someone or all of the individuals involved are going to get hurt.
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