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Whats sad about this is I think he actually means it this time. When we were in our early 20s i would ignore his comments thinking it was merely a phase in his life. He's 39 now. He has a great career, makes more than probably me and my husband combined, owns his own condo and for the most part women seem to take a like in him. So..I dont get the problem.
Within our circle of friends most of us have already had atleast 1 child. But this man absolutely refuses to be involved in a serious relationship and that kinda bothers me as his sister. I would really love to be an aunt and have my child play and be among cousins like we were in growing up.
When I spoke to him last night, he told me its something he has never wanted ever in his life, that he was quite happy living alone and that although he's met plenty of nice women, he doesnt want any type of contractual or serious agreement with anyone.That he doesnt have the energy or interest to chase women around. He's perfectly happy with dating but keeping a separate life is and always will be important to him.
Whats sad about this is I think he actually means it this time. When we were in our early 20s i would ignore his comments thinking it was merely a phase in his life. He's 39 now. He has a great career, makes more than probably me and my husband combined, owns his own condo and for the most part women seem to take a like in him. So..I dont get the problem.
Within our circle of friends most of us have already had atleast 1 child. But this man absolutely refuses to be involved in a serious relationship and that kinda bothers me as his sister. I would really love to be an aunt and have my child play and be among cousins like we were in growing up.
When I spoke to him last night, he told me its something he has never wanted ever in his life, that he was quite happy living alone and that although he's met plenty of nice women, he doesnt want any type of contractual or serious agreement with anyone.That he doesnt have the energy or interest to chase women around. He's perfectly happy with dating but keeping a separate life is and always will be important to him.
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Originally Posted by *Sixy*
I don't see what the problem is
No problem there. Some people are happy without a serious relationship. I'm actually similar to your brother. Albeit a few years younger.
Whats sad about this is I think he actually means it this time. When we were in our early 20s i would ignore his comments thinking it was merely a phase in his life. He's 39 now. He has a great career, makes more than probably me and my husband combined, owns his own condo and for the most part women seem to take a like in him. So..I dont get the problem.
Within our circle of friends most of us have already had atleast 1 child. But this man absolutely refuses to be involved in a serious relationship and that kinda bothers me as his sister. I would really love to be an aunt and have my child play and be among cousins like we were in growing up.
When I spoke to him last night, he told me its something he has never wanted ever in his life, that he was quite happy living alone and that although he's met plenty of nice women, he doesnt want any type of contractual or serious agreement with anyone.That he doesnt have the energy or interest to chase women around. He's perfectly happy with dating but keeping a separate life is and always will be important to him.
aww There is nothing you can do.
I have two brothers. One bro is happily married, one brother is currently dating a beautiful foreign woman (English girl). Ever since I was a little girl, I wanted him to get married, but he disappointed me over and over and over again. I figured he just wanted to date many beautiful women, and never wanted to settle down.
My brother never cheated, but he just hasn't settled down yet. I know you worry about him, but like I said, there is nothing you can do.
I have a lot of guy friends who don't want to get married, period. Maybe they haven't found the one, or maybe they just don't want to get married. Traditional marriage is not for everybody.
Leave him alone? You wanting to be an aunt is hardly any reason for him to change a life style he wants and enjoys. Not everyone is cut out for marriage.
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Whats sad about this is I think he actually means it this time. When we were in our early 20s i would ignore his comments thinking it was merely a phase in his life. He's 39 now. He has a great career, makes more than probably me and my husband combined, owns his own condo and for the most part women seem to take a like in him. So..I dont get the problem.
Within our circle of friends most of us have already had atleast 1 child. But this man absolutely refuses to be involved in a serious relationship and that kinda bothers me as his sister. I would really love to be an aunt and have my child play and be among cousins like we were in growing up.
When I spoke to him last night, he told me its something he has never wanted ever in his life, that he was quite happy living alone and that although he's met plenty of nice women, he doesnt want any type of contractual or serious agreement with anyone.That he doesnt have the energy or interest to chase women around. He's perfectly happy with dating but keeping a separate life is and always will be important to him.
So what? If he's perfectly happy, why can't you be happy for him?
Force him to have children that he has to take care of for at least 18 years so that you can be an aunt and your children can have cousins - because that's what's best for everyone.
Whats sad about this is I think he actually means it this time. When we were in our early 20s i would ignore his comments thinking it was merely a phase in his life. He's 39 now. He has a great career, makes more than probably me and my husband combined, owns his own condo and for the most part women seem to take a like in him. So..I dont get the problem.
Within our circle of friends most of us have already had atleast 1 child. But this man absolutely refuses to be involved in a serious relationship and that kinda bothers me as his sister. I would really love to be an aunt and have my child play and be among cousins like we were in growing up.
When I spoke to him last night, he told me its something he has never wanted ever in his life, that he was quite happy living alone and that although he's met plenty of nice women, he doesnt want any type of contractual or serious agreement with anyone.That he doesnt have the energy or interest to chase women around. He's perfectly happy with dating but keeping a separate life is and always will be important to him.
So what. He's big a boy he can make his own decisions.
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