3 years and the spark is gone? (dating, wife, married, woman)
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This doesn't help when he constantly talks about how hot other women are, and how much he wants to get physical with them.
that should be a red flag right there. i know spending 3 years with someone is a long time for you to think of your life without them, but you need to ask yourself if you're settling. you deserve to be treated like a princess, feel like you're the most important person in his life and adored. it looks like he's not willing to 'give' anymore in your relationship. you should open up with him, tell him how you feel and what you expect out of the relationship, then see if he can meet your expectations. if not, then do you really want to waste anymore time with him when you could be spending that time with the person you're meant to be with forever?
1) If you have let yourself go a bit....diet and exercise. This advice is for all sexes. Nothing like looking *new* and better to spark things up.
2) Buy your S.O. something *naughty*....perhaps a book with things you could try, surprise them with a new outfit etc. etc. etc.
3) Just move on. No drama, no blame, it's just not working out...maybe sometime in the future, be mature.
4) Take a break...sexually or otherwise.
5) Promise each other that you will have no *release* without the other partner present...its possible that your bf is into porn and\or self-help? Go a week without and you will be pouncing on each other.
yes, the relationship has run its course. Here's the thing: the longer you stay in, the more chance you have of being hurt. He's already telling you he wants to get wet and sticky with hot women. This is his way of getting you to break up with him because he doesn't have the balls to be the bad guy. Actually, he doesn't have the man balls at all, so he's going to start doing things like withholding affection, talking about other women, sowing the seeds if mistreatment and alienation so that YOU'LL get fed up and break up. If you hang on, his efforts will double. So I say, get out now. Don't be all dramatic or weepy about it. Just be strong and do it with grace and class. Say you don't think this relationship is working for YOU. Don't make it about him, because really, he isn't giving you what you need anyway. Save the crying for your family and girlfriends. Girlfriends are great for pampering you when you go through a breakup.....and Ben and Jerry's is pretty good for that too!
We have been together for three and a half years and I have been happy throughout most of it.
But the past few months my boyfriend has been stingy with his affection. I have complained about this a few times because after a while it is rather difficult to be constantly ignored and denied physical affection. I would kiss him, but he would never kiss me back, sometimes it feels like he avoids it. At first I chalked it up to stress because I know he was having a very hard time with his college courses, but it hasn't ceased even after finals were over.
When I talked to him about it he told me he felt kinda smothered so I gave him some space. then he said he felt the relationship was stale, and he felt rather neutral about the whole situation. But he insists he feels fine about the whole thing, but he has pretty much lost his sex drive, and he is just as stingy with his affection. The only difference is that if I ask he will hold my hand
This doesn't help when he constantly talks about how hot other women are, and how much he wants to get physical with them.
I love him more than anything, and I really want to work it out, but I just don't think I have it in me to keep going. I'm getting so annoyed at him for blowing it off and telling me that this is just what happens when you get past a certain time period, and he basically acts like this is how it is going to stay.
(I should also mention that this is my first relationship, as well as his, so this is a learning experience for both of us)
You love someone who disrespects your feelings...Yeh you better learn before this becomes a pattern!
Why settle when you haven't even dated around much?
Being dull is one thing...outright disrespectful and openly coveting...That is just BS.
And dont you DARE lose one ounce of yourself for this jerk-o. Lose every single pound of him and take care of yourself inside and out. Then you can parade your happy little butt around with your new much hotter and sweeter boyfriend.
1) If you have let yourself go a bit....diet and exercise. This advice is for all sexes. Nothing like looking *new* and better to spark things up.
2) Buy your S.O. something *naughty*....perhaps a book with things you could try, surprise them with a new outfit etc. etc. etc.
3) Just move on. No drama, no blame, it's just not working out...maybe sometime in the future, be mature.
4) Take a break...sexually or otherwise.
5) Promise each other that you will have no *release* without the other partner present...its possible that your bf is into porn and\or self-help? Go a week without and you will be pouncing on each other.
Pigs like this dont deserve the effort.
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