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The wife and I were talking last night. She asked me about my first girlfriend and if I ever kept anything she gave me. I told her no because personally I don't attach myself to sentimental stuff. Then she told me that her coworker kept stuff her high school sweetheart/first husband gave her, like letters, poems, necklaces and such. Then her second husband one day bumped into this memorabilia and got so upset that he threw everything away. She has a son from her first husband and she kept his pics when he was a little boy, pics of them together as a family and Valentine Day's card, among other sentimental stuff to give to her son when he's older and everything was lost.
Woud you be upset if your SO did something like this and would you give this stuff to your kids for them to keep?
The wife and I were talking last night. She asked me about my first girlfriend and if I ever kept anything she gave me. I told her no because personally I don't attach myself to sentimental stuff. Then she told me that her coworker kept stuff her high school sweetheart/first husband gave her, like letters, poems, necklaces and such. Then her second husband one day bumped into this memorabilia and got so upset that he threw everything away. She has a son from her first husband and she kept his pics when he was a little boy, pics of them together as a family and Valentine Day's card, among other sentimental stuff to give to her son when he's older and everything was lost.
Woud you be upset if your SO did something like this and would you give this stuff to your kids for them to keep?
Nah...wouldn't bother me a bit. I think it's unrealistic to expect someone to try and erase things like this from their lives. And I don't see anything wrong with giving the child these things.
The wife and I were talking last night. She asked me about my first girlfriend and if I ever kept anything she gave me. I told her no because personally I don't attach myself to sentimental stuff. Then she told me that her coworker kept stuff her high school sweetheart/first husband gave her, like letters, poems, necklaces and such. Then her second husband one day bumped into this memorabilia and got so upset that he threw everything away. She has a son from her first husband and she kept his pics when he was a little boy, pics of them together as a family and Valentine Day's card, among other sentimental stuff to give to her son when he's older and everything was lost.
Woud you be upset if your SO did something like this and would you give this stuff to your kids for them to keep?
This would cause a knock down drag out fight in my house. These were NOT his things to throw away.
He could have asked he, respectfully I might add, to sort thru them and have HER dispose of what was really not necessary.
One old girlfriend (from Jr year in high school) is one of my closest friends; she & I still joke about things that we did way back when. My wife knows her well and has no problems with it.
About 3 years ago, I got back in touch, via email, with another old flame. This one didn't break my heart, she tore it out & stomped it flat. But that was almost 30 years ago, and we've become good friends. We haven't seen each other, but I am going to have lunch with her daughter soon. That will be fun, swapping stories about her mom. Again, my wife doesn't mind.
Then there's my First Love, who fell in between the two above. I've been looking for her for 5 years. I was getting close, but word came back through a third party to "stop the search". I wanted to find out who she is today, who she married, all about her kids. Oh well.
I have all kinds of stuff in various boxes from those times. I've been writing a book about me, and there are photos and stories about those three and a couple other girlfriends. My wife is fine with it. She knows I've gotten very nostalgic, and knows me well enough to know I'll never do something stupid.
Not only would I NOT get upset, I would be mad as hell at that man in the original post. He had absolutely no right and it especially makes it worse since there was a child. Even if there was not a child, obviously she cared about this man at some point and you can't just "erase" a whole section of your life, nor should you even try.
thats not so bad. I found my wife's "list" one day. Now I know the names of every guy she has slept with. Some that I even met without knowing it. LOL
The past is the past. Good thing I never kept a "list"
I actually give her **** about it whenever I can get a jab in. LOL
Well, maybe I'm a hypoctite, but it would all depend on just who was on her list. I mean, if my dad was on it (or my sister), I'd be pretty upset. I'd also be upset if some entire pro sports team was on it. ("Dear diary, whew, I finally made it the punter last night and that concludes the whole roster on the Dallas Cowboys...")
But then again, if it's your general dweebs & dopes, I'm cool with it.
thats not so bad. I found my wife's "list" one day. Now I know the names of every guy she has slept with. Some that I even met without knowing it. LOL
The past is the past. Good thing I never kept a "list"
I actually give her **** about it whenever I can get a jab in. LOL
After reading this post, it gave me a very sharp pain in my stomach prompting me to go to the bathroom. If I bumped into by accident then I would ask her why's she keeping it. If it's a long list of names I wouldn't know what I to say to her.
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