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I'm 25 and its the first time I've been cheated on. We broke up 3 months ago. I used to live very close her so I moved out. I haven't seen her or talked to her since I moved out (around 2 months ago). I was very much in love with her. I think about the fact that she cheated on me at least 4 times a week. I get mad and sad and I can't stop thinking about it. When I was still living close to her, I saw her with the guy that she cheated on me with, and I can't get that image out of my head. It hurts so much and I end up crying myself to sleep most nights.
Does it get better? I don't know what I should do to get over it. I definitely don't want to get back with her. That I know for sure. But I can't get over the cheating.
It does get better, but there's nothing like that kind of pain.
It's hard to get over a true betrayal - the deception and breach of trust. You keep thinking about the times you thought things were going one way, and then when you find out, you go back over the places you were and wonder what she was doing, what she had told you so you would believe the lie, etc.
But you just have to go through a grieving process, just like you would any loss. It takes time, and sometimes intentional effort to stop thinking about it. Moving away was the best decision your could have made.
It's get better, time helps saw off the rough edges. I was never cheated on( that I know of) but for people that have it would be a rough thing to deal with. I value loyalty very much and I don't know what I'd do if my SO did cheat on me. I think people need to also be careful to not allow this to color their views and make them paranoid of being cheated on again in the future.
If this is just a girlfriend then you can be thankful she showed her true colors before you married her. No one deserves to be cheated on. You can learn from this and find a better quality woman. Just look at it this way....sometimes the trash takes itself out. A cheater is in fact trash. You deserve better.
Yes, it will get better, but only with time. It's like any other wound you suffer; it takes time to mend the wound.
The sense of betrayal you feel will not likely ease with time because the event that caused those feelings can't be undone. My hope for you is that you hold only her, your ex, responsible for what she did and not all women. If you hold on to a distrust for all women, you will hurt yourself more than women at large. Please don't sentence yourself to that kind of life.
Yes, you’ll feel better and eventually you will hardly remember it. Everyone is right, it takes time.
It’s so hard at first, though! You have my sincere condolences. What a tough thing to have to go through.
Take very good care of yourself. Treat yourself as if you have the kind of sickness that only resolves itself with a healthy diet, exercise, rest, and the company of friends and family. Stay socially involved and continue to work or study as before. Being a little busy will keep your thoughts focused on the current moment. Try to sleep at night. Don’t drink too much, it only depresses your mood. Meditate and find joy in small things.
Not gonna lie, I've been drinking more lately. Probably every other day. I lost all of my friends because of the break up. My ex and I had the same group of friends. I met her 7 years ago and we've had the same friends since then. We were best friends for 3 years before we started dating, thats whats so hard.
I literally have no friends now. They only hang out with her, I'm not really sure if they know what happened. I also moved far from everyone, so its hard to see them. They haven't asked about me or said anything.
I just finished grad school so I'm currently applying for jobs, so I have a lot of free time. I work out and play soccer from time to time, but I have so much free time. I spend several days without actually talking to anyone. I see some friends on weekends but thats it. I'm not from the U.S so my whole family is 2500 miles away. I have no family here. I talk to them on the phone but I don't really want to share my problems with them because they have their own problems and I don't want them to worry.
Not gonna lie, I've been drinking more lately. Probably every other day. I lost all of my friends because of the break up. My ex and I had the same group of friends. I met her 7 years ago and we've had the same friends since then. We were best friends for 3 years before we started dating, thats whats so hard.
I literally have no friends now. They only hang out with her, I'm not really sure if they know what happened. I also moved far from everyone, so its hard to see them. They haven't asked about me or said anything.
I just finished grad school so I'm currently applying for jobs, so I have a lot of free time. I work out and play soccer from time to time, but I have so much free time. I spend several days without actually talking to anyone. I see some friends on weekends but thats it. I'm not from the U.S so my whole family is 2500 miles away. I have no family here. I talk to them on the phone but I don't really want to share my problems with them because they have their own problems and I don't want them to worry.
That happens sometimes when you build your whole world around one person. It does make things more difficult.
Stay as busy as possible. Cut back on the drinking. Hopefully you'll get a job that takes you to a new and interesting place where you can get a new start.
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