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But it's true about the disconnect between looks and skill. I remember a girl in college I was really hot for. She was drop-dead gorgeous and had a killer body. When I finally slept with her, it was a disappointment. Most guys finish too early. With her, I had the opposite problem.
Admiring her too much instead of concentrating on the task at hand? Hmmm..
I don't mind discussing some sexual stuff with my closest friends...sometimes it is fun to compare and laugh at ourselves. "You did it where? Wow, I'm impressed!" or "Hey, have you ever tried....?" It's not bragging, it's just....entertaining
However, my best pal is waaaaay more open about this stuff than I am; thanks to that I know how, er, large her guy is, how long he takes to do his thing, his bedroom quirks....all kinds of information I never needed or wanted to know. I don't give such info in return.
Actually in the earlier stages of dating my bf, I overheard him talking to one of his guy friends, who was inquiring if we had "done the deed" or how far we'd gotten. BF kept his mouth shut. I thought that was cool of him.
I don't mind discussing some sexual stuff with my closest friends...sometimes it is fun to compare and laugh at ourselves. "You did it where?
I remember when I was in college, a group of us were drinking and asking each other where was the strangest place they ever had sex. The ditsy one of the group said, with a completely straight face, "Up the ass." I guess we shouldn't have asked her first.
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Originally Posted by Capt. Dan I have found over the years that really beautiful women tend to be arrogant and that arrogance sometimes spills over to the bed. Hence the feeling that shes doing me a favor. No thanks. Give me a less pretty lady with sexual talent any day!!
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I wonder if women feel the same way about the really hot guys, like they think any woman who sleeps with them should consider herself lucky and that he doesn't have to be so concerned about pleasing her.
There may be more of an opposite effect. These are the guys with experience. Bombshells don't have to put out so they have less experience, but few men care, at least at first.
However, in general, men have been accused of not being interested in pleasing women for the past 40 years. (Before that, it was not discussed) However, I wonder how many communicate what they want and are still disappointed? Now THAT should be the deal breaker, not a lack of experience.
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Originally Posted by DennyCrane But it's true about the disconnect between looks and skill. I remember a girl in college I was really hot for. She was drop-dead gorgeous and had a killer body. When I finally slept with her, it was a disappointment. Most guys finish too early. With her, I had the opposite problem.
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Admiring her too much instead of concentrating on the task at hand? Hmmm..
I remember when I was in college, a group of us were drinking and asking each other where was the strangest place they ever had sex. The ditsy one of the group said, with a completely straight face, "Up the ass." I guess we shouldn't have asked her first.
Was it over a desk in class or over the hood of a car in the parking lot?
Surely, you were ready with a follow up question, to get the conservation back on topic!
Bragging about that with his buddies is really disgusting. I was involved with someone for a few years, and we were both on the same online board (back in the Dark Ages there were BBSes - bulletin board systems, pre-Internet!). They had "private" forums, where they were locked out to only women or only men, etc. Well, on the private men's forum, someone asked who was a good kisser. That was a lively topic, and then someone brought up another sexual activity. My then boyfriend posted about me - in glowing terms! Next thing I know, I got a private message from some sleazy guy that said, "Hey, Ms. Notorious." Euuuww! I made my BF delete his post immediately, and he apologized and said that he hadn't really been thinking. Uh, yeah, guess not!
A man who cares about the woman he's with doesn't want other men visualizing her naked, so he'd keep this info strictly to himself.
Also, this should all be private. Why does the whole world have to know about your intimate activities?!
I'm a pretty private person overall, there are certain things I just don't discuss much. Sex is not off limits but some particulars are just not open for discussion. I can understand talking about a one night stand, or someone you're really not going anywhere with. But the SO is pretty sacred to me.
I didn't find out until much later that my ex would go to work and thump his chest about our sex life (many of his friends worked with him). I'm far from being a prude, but I wasn't happy with it and told him as much. He said it was just guy talk and his way of "marking his territory" (he insisted a couple of his friends were hitting on me - they weren't). I told him if he was concerned to the point of marking his territory, then he made a huge mistake. They are ultimately men, and all he has done is arouse their curiosity. And as a personal matter, I'm not his fire hydrant.
When we broke up, sure enough, one of them asked me out on a date. And he told me that as a man, my ex's biggest mistake was inviting them into our bedroom.
I personally don't discuss much in that area with women for the same reason. I'm not possessive, but I'm not going to contribute to temptation.
What about youze guys?
This topic is for discussion between the two people involved only, as far as I'm concerned.
People who talk it up are insecure, immature, idiotic, and definitely good riddance material.
You have to brag? Hmmm....your either a loser, feelin` insecure, or a big head, who wants to let others know...."Hey, look what I had/ got!
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I thought that was cool of him.
Next thing I know, I got a private message from some sleazy guy that said, "Hey, Ms. Notorious." Euuuww! I made my BF delete his post immediately, and he apologized and said that he hadn't really been thinking. Uh, yeah, guess not! 
