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When you wonder if a woman is doing something with her eyes but you never actually look, but then you finally look and you think you see something, and then you start getting that limerance feeling (you start giving her the eyes) and you start having thoughts and you start feeling the way you did years ago before your hormones changed (cause not you're now in your 40's and that feeling does not happen nearly as much as it used to), is this feeling caused entirely by yourself (ie wishful thinking) or is there some truth that there may be some interest on the other side?
I consider myself to be a staunchly conservative realistic person and cynical when ti comes to these matters, but I wonder if this is all me or can it come from the other side?
Ok call lme dumb but what in the hell is LIMERANCE??? I am going to look it up but in the meantime, lets have a chat about strange words in the relationship threads....sigh
LIMERANCE, I love it- haven't heard that in a long time. It's mostly you , I have to tell you (if your flirtation is anything like the one I recently had.) But I do think the other person can spark it or shut it down if they are not at all interested, but 80% or better- it's a feeling that comes from you. Have fun.
I consider myself to be a staunchly conservative realistic person and cynical when it comes to these matters, but I wonder if this is all me or can it come from the other side?
good question, good post (once I figured out what "limerance" meant LOL)
if you are feeling attracted to someone and the hormones and flirtation are kicking in that is a good thing, particularly nice if it doesn't come along that frequently
where does it originate, from her or from you? I've wondered that myself
if you feel she is flirting with you, then she probably is (whether she admits it or not, whether she acts on it or not, whether she runs the other way when you try to talk to her or not)
if you can tell she isn't giving you the time of day then it's coming from you
i'd say 99.9% of the time if you feel like someone is flirting with you, then they are
have fun with it!
Last edited by Tzaphkiel; 03-24-2009 at 01:10 PM..
i'm reading this thread with interest because there's this guy at work i've been wondering the same thing about. I see him around the grounds, we smile (same as hundreds of other people I see walking around at work also smile and say hi) but I've noticed his smile is particularly nice, and I've noticed an attraction to him. And I've wondered if it is mutual, but never bothered to act on it or try to find out.
well, this went on for months, the smile and the "hi" and one day I just blurted out (after the usual eye contact and smile and "hi") I said, "You have the nicest smile."
Imagine my utter surprise when he said with a big grin, "You do too." We chatted a couple minutes, I looked at his name badge (I didn't even know his name) and I called him by name. Well the hormones were kicking in big time for me by then, but I still didn't know if he was "just being friendly" or "said that to everybody."
Well, by the time I returned to my desk he had e-mailed me, very sweet, and shortly after that we exchanged our personal e-mail addresses (not wanting to write each other on work e-mail) and have been getting to know each other. It is still very much a flirtation, but at least now I am on more solid ground that it is mutual, which I wasn't before.
So I'd say try something that could give her the opportunity to let you know if she is just being "courteous" or if she is that "friendly" and "flirtatious" to everyone or if there is indeed something more personal behind it that bears exploring.
I'd slowly walk towards her, limerance shining in our eyes. As we close in, passion in our blood fuels a depth of breath that locks in our eyes upon each other. We reach each other's 'space' and with a breathless tone, unable to be constrained by human bonds, I blurt out, "Is there something in your eyes, lady, as they sure do twitch a lot." "Darn contacts", she exclaims...
Last edited by BLAZER PROPHET; 03-24-2009 at 02:17 PM..
Now we have to discuss limerance in these forums??? If that's how it is, it's time for me to absquatulate!!!
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Okok
Good luck!
