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You go, girl!
Funny, I once lived with a guy who visited Palm Springs (from Az) from time to time to 'visit his mom'. Oh, wait, didnt he tell me when we first met, that both his parents passed on? Hmmmm.. This was the same guy who came home from 'fishing trips' with his 'buddies' with long blond hairs on his jackets. And at the time, my hair was black. So, when I was able to stash enough $$$, he came home from one weekend visit to Palm Springs and found me gone. Along with my stuff and MY furniture. I ran into his best friend a couple of times after that, but had nothing to say to him. either, for alibi-ing for him..
WOW, good for you for getting out of that bad relationship! So, did the punk try to call you, saying, "WTF happened?!" Priceless!
you've got it pretty good if you think that's cheating. maybe he likes to talk dirty to other women to get all worked up and then give you good sex? either way, until he does something physical it really isn't cheating unless he withholds emotions from you. does he treat you like a 2nd class citizen?
if my wife hired a PI to follow me around, and i got wise to it, i'd probably cheat on her then...maybe not but just saying. if you treat him like he is cheating, then what does he have to lose if he does cheat?
it sounds like he enjoyed instant messaging before you even came into the picture. maybe it is just something that he likes to do?
In this case, you aint much of a prize to begin with. You give her a reason to suspect cheating - when she wants the truth, you won't give it to her, so she has to resort to other means to find out - and you cheat on her just 'cuz? I'd leave your ass and take you to the cleaners!
I bet that this trip he has planned is going to lead to him meeting up with whoever he is talking to online. This is why he had to sleep with the computer. Not only because the wife might find out at the last minute and ruin everything, but because he wants to know, make sure, that this woman hes going to meet has arrived at the place they both will meet at. He is very anxious and wants everything to go well. So he slept with the laptop to make sure that he gets her messages . What if she IMed him at 3 in the morning because her flight got canceled, or the hotel didnt have the room, or whatever. He wanted to know what was going on at whatever time. Lately hes been giving all kinds of clues to his behavior, and its not coincidence that your alerts are on red right now. He's going to do the deed with her on this trip.
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I bet that this trip he has planned is going to lead to him meeting up with whoever he is talking to online. This is why he had to sleep with the computer. Not only because the wife might find out at the last minute and ruin everything, but because he wants to know, make sure, that this woman hes going to meet has arrived at the place they both will meet at. He is very anxious and wants everything to go well. So he slept with the laptop to make sure that he gets her messages . What if she IMed him at 3 in the morning because her flight got canceled, or the hotel didnt have the room, or whatever. He wanted to know what was going on at whatever time. Lately hes been giving all kinds of clues to his behavior, and its not coincidence that your alerts are on red right now. He's going to do the dead with her on this trip.
I tried repping you on that one, but you know how it goes, its too soon.
Awwww, it's the thought that counts! But, rest assured, I'll come up with some other funny posts you can rep me on at the appointed time. I'll do the same!
A half brain will know to dump his history! A keystroke moniter will get you EVERYTHING...those deleted love emails...EVERYTHING!
I keep my history, only because I need it for reference. I was using IM to keep in touch with friends, relatives AND exes.
I have nothing against the key logger idea (I haven't used one). Does the key logger show you IM messages sent to you (not the ones you've typed)?
This is my first post. I desperately need some advice.
I am a newlywed, married almost a year. I am 26 and my husband is 28. We dated for three years before we married. Our dating was filled with my huband (then boyfriend) contact his ex-girlfriend. He emailed her, instant messaged and googled her. Several years ago, I told him that if he ever got on the instant message again, we were done. I knew that if he was on there, he would be contacting her at some point and I would never know about it. At the time, he agreed and for several years, it appeared that he did stay off and that he had not contacted this girl.
Fast forward to today. I have discovered that he is back on the instant message...not just sometimes but most of the day and night. He is on at night when I am asleep. And you probably have guessed that the ex-girlfriend is on at the same time. However, I can't prove that they are on together, but he has broken my trust already.
Some people have suggested that I install a keylogger on his laptop computer. I have also thought of hiring a private detective. Do you consider this cheating, and if so, is it enough to end a marriage? I should add that the girl lives about a thousand miles from us. But, my husband travels a lot and I don't know that she wouldn't join him sometime.
Any help would be so appreciated. Thanks in advance.
There is very little difference between cheating and lying to your wife/husband. If this isn't cheating, it is a very close second base. The question is why does he persist in this silly behavior....find out an answer to that question (by asking him) before you decide to do anything. If he lies to you ("I'm not texting...honest") tell him that you know he's doing it and what your proof is ("I've seen you.") do not allow him to side track you from your major question ("Yeah, but it was with an old army buddy.") Once you find out why he is being so silly, then decide what to do.
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