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What man pays for the wedding? Let her go. It sounds to me that she's had doubts about you for a while, but liked that you were willing to pay for everything. You're lucky not to be marrying her. You need a woman that is more your equal in all ways, including matching levels of love and income.
If you can't get your wedding deposit money back, see if you can use the deposits to throw a party for you and your friends. Of course, your ex should not be invited.
What man pays for the wedding? Let her go. It sounds to me that she's had doubts about you for a while, but liked that you were willing to pay for everything. You're lucky not to be marrying her. You need a woman that is more your equal in all ways, including matching levels of love and income.
If you can't get your wedding deposit money back, see if you can use the deposits to throw a party for you and your friends. Of course, your ex should not be invited.
Either that or pay off all his debts that I'm guessing accrued during this "relationship." Ask for the ring back, and sell it. Throw away all the photos.
I'm with all the others. Let her go. You wouldn't enjoy being with someone who doesn't want to be with you, and that's what you'd have if she stayed. She's probably had a tough time deciding, but now that she's made her choice, let her go peacefully.
Your house, if you can afford it, could be one of the best investments you'll ever make. My son has never married, and he just purchased and moved into his second house last week -- this time a big one on the golf course. The first one, believe it or not, he bought so his dog could have a big yard. But it turned out to be a great investment for him. Despite the recent drop in home values, houses have historically been excellent investments for those who live in them for several years.
Gosh I am so sorry - that's is a rough hand she just dealt you. I agree with the rest...don't try to get her to stay - let her go. If it turns out she just needs time, then she'll have that, and if she decides to come back, it will be her decision, not you pushing her.
The money situation IS rather unusual though. Why was she not contributing to the costs? Lesson learned there, for sure.
Let her go. You've got a lot going for you especially if you are buying a home on your own. If you bought everything and she throws you down the drain she does not give a crap about you. She is treating you like garbage, don't let her do that. There is plenty of others girls out there and there is even more out there who are looking for a guy who has his act together, such as yourself.
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Look at it from a bright side, you have a new house and you can bring home anybody you want.
I have been dating my fiance for 6 years. We were set to be married in June. I closed on a house last weekend and we just finished moving in. Last night, out of the blue, she simply said that she doesn't want to be with me anymore. She won't give me a reason and simply says that she has changed as a person and has different priorities in life. I just don't understand. I havn't noticed any changes, I really never saw this coming. I have so much money tied up in the house and the wedding. She hasn't spent a dime. I have gambeled everything I have on this relationship. She kept telling me that I am a great person and that I have so much going for me. Ideally I would like to keep her in my life. Should I try and win her back or just let her go. I want to be with her, I don't know how to live my life without her. I am at as loss as of what to go...
Yeah, yeah.... the old "I love you, but I am not in love with you" speech. I've heard this story a thousand times.
You woudn't happen to have a three-year old running around would you? Just a guess.
That's why I never married (aside from the cost ,the lack of social network to make the ceremony truly enjoyable, and the frightening solemnity of the vows ).
And I was right! O how I was right!
I'm now in the throngs of leaving my long time partner, and it would have been much more painful and costly if we had been married.
Maybe we can even stay good friends because we didn't have our garbage hurled at it other in the public sphere through judicial proceedings (and we kept assets and bank accounts separate).
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But it turned out to be a great investment for him. Despite the recent drop in home values, houses have historically been excellent investments for those who live in them for several years.
