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Have you ever got in touch with the ex even though you are happily married? Why? Any thoughts on that. Please share your story.
Well, depends on the intentions and the situations behind the reasons for contacting the ex. IMHO, the only reason that I would contact an ex is IF:
1. I have a child/ children w/ the ex;
2. I have one or more mutual friend(s) w/ the ex that has something terrible in that particular friend's life. For example, if a mutual friend got into a gnarly accident/ someone we mutually know passes away/ so forth, then ONE contact w/ the ex is a civil thing to do;
3. The ex is a decent person, and if any conversation that I would have w/ the ex is NOT something that I'm hiding from my spouse. SO the thing is: go ahead and have contact with the ex, AS LONG AS you are not hiding it from your spouse;
4. The ex is respectful to my marriage and my spouse; and last but not least;
5. The ex is not out to get back together w/ me.
Otherwise, keeping contact with an ex is a waste of time for me.
I don't have an "ex" as in wife, but I'm in touch with a couple of ex-girlfriends. One of them is one of me and my wife's best friends; we've been friends for 35+ years, and she's married to my oldest & dearest friend.
I've been email buddies with another ex-girl for about 3 years; haven't seen her in almost 30 years. My wife knows we write back & forth; no problems there.
My wife also knows I'd like to get in touch with my First Love. I'd love to find out all about her, who she married, her kids, etc.
Now before I get lectured, it's not all about my ex's; I've also gotten back in touch with several dozen old friends & aquaintances, mainly thru facebook.
Call this nostalgia my version of a mid-life crisis. Could be worse.
I don't have an "ex" as in wife, but I'm in touch with a couple of ex-girlfriends. One of them is one of me and my wife's best friends; we've been friends for 35+ years, and she's married to my oldest & dearest friend.
I've been email buddies with another ex-girl for about 3 years; haven't seen her in almost 30 years. My wife knows we write back & forth; no problems there.
My wife also knows I'd like to get in touch with my First Love. I'd love to find out all about her, who she married, her kids, etc.
Now before I get lectured, it's not all about my ex's; I've also gotten back in touch with several dozen old friends & aquaintances, mainly thru facebook.
Call this nostalgia my version of a mid-life crisis. Could be worse.
What a great marriage. Its cool that neither one is jealous of each others' exes. She talks to all her exes and so do you. Good for you.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes
No. There's a reason they're called exes!
Most of my exes (husband and b/f's) I'm grateful for--that they're my ex, I mean. But not all are exes b'c they were jerks. Sometimes it's quite possibly the inexperience of youth and pain of overbearing parents who bully under the guise of caring parent to try to choose your love interests for you. Ah! It felt good to get that out.
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Ah! It felt good to get that out. 
