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Which is worse in your opinion? For me, it is by far emotional hurt..not only is it more intense than physical pain because much of it is feelings & a usually bruised self-esteem? Physical pain in my opinion can heal up more quickly than can emotional pain, emotional pain can last for lifetimes & affect future relationships. How can one heal themselves from emotional hurt?
They are both horrible. Physical pain of course can hurt your self-esteem too.
But take the situation of where a couple treats each other great.. then all of a sudden Person #1 finds out that Person #2 has been cheating or something.. That pain comes out of nowhere so it's not like the other person was "allowing" it. Or what if Person #1 unintentionally hurts Person #2 so Person #2 leaves and Person #1 is devastated.
I broke my femur (thigh bone) when I was younger.. So the last time I had my heart broken, I used to tell people that I'd rather break my leg than go through what I was going through.. And I still feel like that. And I'm usually not an overly emotional person either!
Of course I would rather have my leg than my heart broken. But if it were my partner who broke my leg (while attacking me), both my leg and my heart would be broken and my trust forever shattered. I don't think there's any way I could be more emotionally hurt than following physical violence.
But take the situation of where a couple treats each other great.. then all of a sudden Person #1 finds out that Person #2 has been cheating or something.. That pain comes out of nowhere so it's not like the other person was "allowing" it. Or what if Person #1 unintentionally hurts Person #2 so Person #2 leaves and Person #1 is devastated.
I broke my femur (thigh bone) when I was younger.. So the last time I had my heart broken, I used to tell people that I'd rather break my leg than go through what I was going through.. And I still feel like that. And I'm usually not an overly emotional person either!
yup, dead on.....
like someone rips your heart out...
You are absolutely right, absolutely, and I now look back and wonder, "What the hell were you thinking". I was really vulnerable, naieve and down right stupid.
I wouldn't say you are stupid.
I would say you are a very nice person who wants to believe that the other person didn't mean to treat you like that. Like a bad day kinda thing.
However, there are lines in our minds that we have to keep dark and bold so we never get them erased to only draw a lighter shaded one back a ways. You know, like, I will allow them to cuss me out....now I will allow them to push me...now I will...See?
We have to keep the dark, bold lines clear and they should know in their minds where those lines are.
Like my wife knows if she EVER cheated I would be gone. GONE!! No questions asked. She knows that. See those who don't have those lines will find they are living with someone who has cheated on them not once but a couple of times. The moved the line or they just don't know where the line is...neither do they.
yup, dead on.....
like someone rips your heart out...
Isn't it a miserable time? The only good thing is to know that it's possible to care about someone that much. I used to think that something was wrong with me because I would get over my relationships pretty fast.. but with that guy.. man, I had to put EFFORT in to being able to work and function normally.
Which is worse in your opinion? For me, it is by far emotional hurt..not only is it more intense than physical pain because much of it is feelings & a usually bruised self-esteem? Physical pain in my opinion can heal up more quickly than can emotional pain, emotional pain can last for lifetimes & affect future relationships. How can one heal themselves from emotional hurt?
Its a different sort of pain. Physical can be more intense but the emotional can linger and is more likely to re-visit.
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