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Old 04-03-2009, 12:09 PM
 
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This is for those that have cheated, had affairs, or have thought about it. Alot of women, think us men are psychics, but like it was mentioned on my other post,men half of the time dont know why their woman cheated! What can we do or improve on, to keep you from running out, to men, its all about pride, that where it hurts the worst when a woman cheats!!!
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Old 04-03-2009, 12:25 PM
 
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This is for those that have cheated, had affairs, or have thought about it. Alot of women, think us men are psychics, but like it was mentioned on my other post,men half of the time dont know why their woman cheated! What can we do or improve on, to keep you from running out, to men, its all about pride, that where it hurts the worst when a woman cheats!!!
Well, ACTUALLY, when a woman cheats, it's not about what the MAN should do to prevent her from cheating. The REAL answer comes from what the WOMAN, herself, must COMMUNICATE to her husband in order to prevent herself from cheating.

Like you said, if you guys, half of the time, don't know why their women cheated, then how on Earth would you know what you're doing wrong if your women don't TELL you what needs to be fixed?
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Old 04-03-2009, 12:48 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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Most women cheat because they fell neglected or taken for granted. If you don't want your woman to fall into the arms of another man, PAY ATTENTION TO HER. It is not enough to work hard and pay the bills. You have to do all the things you did in the beginning to win her in the first place. The problem is men think once they've married a woman, that they can relax and not work at the relationship anymore. Your SO still needs to know (and will continue to need to know) that you love her and that she's important to you. Don't you want to feel attractive and important to the person you love?
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Old 04-03-2009, 01:20 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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A good woman is pretty easy to please. Treat her with respect and she's a happy camper. Thing is, respect encompasses so many things that it's like pulling teeth for some. And there are people out there who will cheat just because they can.

I have been in relationships where I felt my needs were not being met. I did my part in communicating that when I began feeling the pull towards other men. I made it abundantly clear that is what I was feeling. Except mine wasn't a threat to cheat, it was a warning that I was on my way out. Once I feel an attraction to other men, to the point of wanting to act on it, there is a very small window of opportunity to save the relationship. From there on, it's up to them.
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Old 04-03-2009, 01:25 PM
 
Location: Philly
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Like Mary J Blige says on her song "If You Love Me"

You gotta remember the way that you got me
Cause that's the way you'll remember the way to keep me

I think those words kind of sum up what most committed women are saying in actions and words.
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Old 04-03-2009, 02:49 PM
 
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wow mary j blige, "the queen of hip hop soul" can always break down and articulate what a real woman is feeling!
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Old 04-03-2009, 03:42 PM
 
Location: Whoville....
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There is nothing you can do to stop someone else from doing what they want to do. If cheating were about the relationship a cheater is in, they'd work on that relationship rather than cheat. Cheating is about the cheater getting what they want and that really has nothing to do with their SO. It's a flaw in the cheater.
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Old 04-03-2009, 03:44 PM
 
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What are simple ways a man could keep a woman from cheating??? Hmmmmm, let's see...he could refrain from silly questions that make us want to bash our heads into a concrete wall
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Old 04-03-2009, 03:47 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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This is for those that have cheated, had affairs, or have thought about it. Alot of women, think us men are psychics, but like it was mentioned on my other post,men half of the time dont know why their woman cheated! What can we do or improve on, to keep you from running out, to men, its all about pride, that where it hurts the worst when a woman cheats!!!
The ones who don't know are the ones whose wives will probably tell you don't listen. Some men, you can tell straight out that you're lonely or feel neglected and if something doesn't change soon, something's gonna change soon--but they either don't hear it, don't believe it or just plain don't get it. Wake up and listen. Treat her how you'd like to be treated. That's how you can possibly prevent it.
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Old 04-03-2009, 03:56 PM
 
Location: Not tied down... maybe later! *rawr*
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I don't fit into your qualifications, as I've never cheated, never wanted to, etc.

But I always remember my Grandma saying, "Have an affair with your wife (or husband) or someone else will."

Just 'cuz you're married doesn't mean you quit dating your S/O!
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