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He's not asking us to take sides - you are confusing his thread with some of yours - he's asking if relationships that start as affairs ever make it long term. Do you have an opinion about THAT you'd like to share? (I feel sure you do )
Actually, I answered that question. I simply asked, when he disclosed he's been in counseling for 7 years, whether the affair started before or after the counseling started and expressed surprise that it was after. That does not sound like counseling that is working to me. Usually, you base the decision on how well counseling is working on results. If he thinks those were good results, I guess our definitions of good results from counseling are different.
Seriously, if he's still in counseling and being in counseling didn't help him make better decisions, he needs to take a long time by himself with a good counselor to get things straightened out. My guess would be that the relationship would not work right now. This is one of those, if you love something let it go moments in life. Both of them need time to grow up and figure out who they really are.
I just sincerely sense this relationship was more than just a casual fling to forget your bad marriage. The way you have described your feelings for her as your best friend, the compatibility, it has such potential when the time is right.
Fo Sho. I guess my question is better put to a crystal ball. Timing being what it is I wonder if timing ruined the chance for us to be happy. It is really a sad thing to have to push someone away that makes me so happy.
Most of you have echoed my feelings( even the ones saying it wont work) all too well.
In the end it comes down to time and healing from two broken relationships. Ivory does have a point in asking what it is in me, and my choices of relationships. That really is part of my heart telling me to give it time. I damn sure don't want to end up in another failed marriage.
Fo Sho. I guess my question is better put to a crystal ball. Timing being what it is I wonder if timing ruined the chance for us to be happy. It is really a sad thing to have to push someone away that makes me so happy.
Most of you have echoed my feelings( even the ones saying it wont work) all too well.
In the end it comes down to time and healing from two broken relationships. Ivory does have a point in asking what it is in me, and my choices of relationships. That really is part of my heart telling me to give it time. I damn sure don't want to end up in another failed marriage.
I suspect you will make the right decision. You have a good head on your shoulders. A good soul, I think.
Hehehehe Yes I do. She has been there to hand a piece of that chocolate over in a time of need.
Hahaha so NYEH. I swear I can hear her say it...
Really I do appreciate those of you who have risked the wrath of others to post an opinion contrary to popular belief.
Toxic people tend to breed toxic situations. We were doing pretty good there for a while.
Can anyone raise their hand and point out for the rest of the class where it went downhill?
Why god, why?
Where's artsy when you need him?
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