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Phhhhttttt.... I say spread your wings and fly. Chicago ain't all that great, and Miami needn't be all that permanent; if you disagree, you NEED to get out of Chicago.
Phhhhttttt.... I say spread your wings and fly. Chicago ain't all that great, and Miami needn't be all that permanent; if you disagree, you NEED to get out of Chicago.
This forum always seems full of good advice, so I thought I would see what you all thought. Here's the situation in a nutshell:
My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time, and he moved to Louisville about a year ago for a job offer that he felt he had to take at the time (he was probably right). In the meantime, I stayed in Chicago.
The past year has been difficult for him. He hasn't really made any friends down there, and he comes up here to visit a lot. He puts in lots of effort to make sure that the relationship works. Unfortunately, he is really depressed right now. I think it's a combination of circumstance and chemical depression. He is treating the problem with medication and therapy, which is great.
He's going to be offered a position with his company in Miami tomorrow, and I am concerned that he sees moving to Miami as a fix to his problems. I have serious reservations about moving down there when the economy is so bad, but primarily I am concerned about not having a support system down there. I am afraid it would be very bad for our relationship.
I think our relationship would be much better if he moved back to Chicago, a city he and I both love, where we have friends and things to do that we enjoy. The problem is that he thinks I am unwilling to do anything to take the relationship to the next level. His attitude is that I am willing to move forward with him but only if he moves back to Chicago. My contention is that I am willing to move forward, but I want us to be in a situation that is sure to be good for us. Clearly, the last move he made didn't work out all that well.
Do you think it's possible that his depression is interfering with his ability to think clearly about this decision? Am I wrong when I tell him that his unhappiness would follow him from Louisville to Miami?
Thanks in advance for any and all advice.
If you really care about this man, you'd move to the moon with him. You sound like a control freak, drop the reigns and let him lead
Maybe he thinks YOU are his support system and is depressed because he doesnt understand why his support system wont come to him WHERE HE IS TRYING TO MAKE A LIVING IN A BAD ECONOMY!!!!!!!!
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