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Old 04-12-2009, 07:53 PM
 
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All this happened over a period of 19 years so it probably looks worse. There were actually some good times!! I left him in December 07. He’s trying to get me back. I’ve said NO. Do you think I’m right?
Shouts me down in front of people.
Snaps at the slightest criticism.
Never takes blame.
Runs my kids down to everyone.
Did not invite them to my 50th birthday party.
Makes sarcastic remarks to them, then pretends it’s a joke.
Tells me I’d be lost without him.
Tells me if I ever left he would know my every move because he’s got people everywhere.
Avoids my family functions.
Shouted at me in front of bus load of bingo women when one gave him a sweet and I said he shouldn’t really have them (diabetes).
Embarrassed me in front of coach theatre group when I was doing a deal with a ticket tout to get some money for surplus tickets. Told tout to f off.
Does ‘jobs’ for (my daughter) just to say, ‘Look at everything I do for her kids!’ to everyone.
Threw a bread board at me.
Threw a phone at me – hit me in back.
Bashed a door onto my elbow.
Upset me on Boxing day just after my hysterectomy by refusing to pick (my daughter & grandson) up.
Flirts with anyone.
Abandoned me in a pub whilst we were on holiday when I’d had too much to drink.
Shows no affection.
Complained about (my daughter) coming around too often.
Allowed (his daughter) to ban me from her 18th. (I’d been with him 6 years)
Paid (his daughter) mortgage 2 x months running without telling me.
Paid amounts into (his daughter) account without telling me
Makes arrangements with (his daughter) without asking me.
Did not propose even after 9 years together.
Ignored me all day at (his daughter) wedding, then swore at me for letting the coach go without him when I didn’t.
Happily went off on a family meal next day.
Ruined most Christmases with sulking.
Kicked dogs.
Banned dogs from lounge.
Admitted he never gets emotionally connected to animals.
Watches porn in secret.
Sulks if I work at night on PC even though that’s when I get most done.
Accuses me of everything HE does
Once said, ’Maybe I don’t know what love is.’ Now I know what he meant.

Recently (since I left in December) He says he wants me back, but:

Took dogs back (even when knew I was alone in this house first couple weeks)
Tells people I left because of my ‘jealousy’ or that I’m having a ‘funny turn’.
Arranged a night out with me (important because it was first night out since split) then changed his mind because he remembered he was going to (his daughter) birthday gathering.
Agreed to solve our financial worries by selling the house – then changed mind with no thought for the consequences.
Arranged a day out for (his mother, 2 women friends, his daughter). No mention to me.
Had a go at me at (my best friend) house when she had invited us for dinner. Didn’t care I was upset.
Gave a set of our garden table & chairs (which he knew I liked) away to (his daughter). Said he lent them?
He thinks I’m wrong to leave him on his own. He has diabetes type 2. He says he will change but he doesn’t know what he’s going to change even though I’m sick of telling him. Has never been unfaithful.

Thank you.

Last edited by MelloMix; 04-12-2009 at 08:02 PM..
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Old 04-12-2009, 08:10 PM
 
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yes you are right to have left. He puts his daughter ahead of you, shouldn't you be w/ a man who makes you #1? Why are you thinking about going back? Only good reason would be to get the dog. Why did you let him get the dog from you- he kicks her (him)! Any as far as faithfulness, he sounds like he wouldn't be too attractive to others, but it goes without saying, he is supposed to be faithful. Stay away but please get the dog!
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Old 04-12-2009, 08:10 PM
 
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Any positive actions from him in those 19 years?
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Old 04-12-2009, 08:12 PM
 
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I mean dogs, get the dogs back.
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Old 04-12-2009, 08:12 PM
 
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As soon as I saw kicked dogs I was for hiring a hit man. Your sick for asking the question. Seek help.
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Old 04-12-2009, 08:14 PM
 
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I mean dogs, get the dogs back.
LOL I read it, "get mean dogs"!!!
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Old 04-12-2009, 08:15 PM
 
Location: Seattle metro, WA, US
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such an awesome rap sheet and you are asking?? You should have left long ago. Let him deal with his diabetes or whatever; if he counted on help with diabetes and stuff, he should have been nicer, much nicer to you and folks. Don't get suckered into that compassion gig.
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Old 04-12-2009, 08:15 PM
 
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the dogs should get mean on him. What a creep! Terrible.
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Old 04-12-2009, 08:16 PM
 
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but seriously, OP, (I am serious about you getting the dogs back, that should be priority #1) , WHY would you want him back? You escaped!
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Old 04-12-2009, 08:20 PM
 
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I'd like to see his list.
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