What is with this guy? (dating, girlfriend, married, women)
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My friend (going through a divorce) flirts with this guy at her work. She works with him about 1X a week as their schedules differ. She said, before he found out she was married, he would squeeze her shoulder (almost like massaging, but only for a second) he since stopped that . SHe flirted with him a lot one day and he was almost rude to her. SHe says (and I don't understand either) she can't figure out the mixed signals. (I don't judge her becasue I am close to divorce myself and in a bad marriage.) When she "plays hard to get, he is more interested. I think inconsistancy is not a good sign. He knows she is getting divorced (now) so I told her if he doesn't make a move now rather then just passing time flirting, forget it. What is with this guy? We are uncertain if he has a girlfriend, if he does, he didn't admit it when she asked. He has gone out of his way on his off time to say hi to her. What do you guys make of it?
My friend (going through a divorce) flirts with this guy at her work. She works with him about 1X a week as their schedules differ. She said, before he found out she was married, he would squeeze her shoulder (almost like massaging, but only for a second) he since stopped that . SHe flirted with him a lot one day and he was almost rude to her. SHe says (and I don't understand either) she can't figure out the mixed signals. (I don't judge her becasue I am close to divorce myself and in a bad marriage.) When she "plays hard to get, he is more interested. I think inconsistancy is not a good sign. He knows she is getting divorced (now) so I told her if he doesn't make a move now rather then just passing time flirting, forget it. What is with this guy? We are uncertain if he has a girlfriend, if he does, he didn't admit it when she asked. He has gone out of his way on his off time to say hi to her. What do you guys make of it?
He is more interested in the chase than the capture. Now that she might actually be available soon he's not going to stay interested. He's probably got a girlfriend already and just likes to flirt - doesn't really want it to go anywhere.
It's quite possible that he is waiting for her to get divorced.
I have a hard and fast rule about never dating someone that is married...and *getting* a divorce means your friend is still married.
He might be a little frustrated by the situation as he might like her but can't reasonably act upon it. He might also be in some sort of turbulent on\off dating relationship and is conflicted but can't move forward with your friend.
The fact that he cooled off when he found out she was married should tell you he isn't a player....my guess is he is waiting for divorce to finalize.
This is kinda funny. Women have such a different perspective than men. I agree with Mathguy. He is probably very interested and doesn't want to start something with her before she is available. His "mixed signals" are probably based more on his internal conflict than being a playa.
The other male possibility is that he really just likes to flirt and has no intentions with her at all. I can be flirtatious with women I have absolutely no intention of trying to get with. For no other reason than the playful banter. I find myself less flirty with women I am actually interested in. Go figure.
No one is going to know unless she asks this guy. What's with people - they aren't direct and ask strangers what must be in someone's mind that we can't have a clue about. Ask HIM.
thank-you for the imput. He actually asked her out today. SHe called me right after it happened and I admit, I am pretty shocked! But I can't wait to hear how it will go. I do believe he is commitment shy, but a date isn't that big a deal.
If he was interested he would have probably already made the move.
Not to mention he works with her. That might prevent him from making any serious contact.
Did you fail to read the post directly above yours?
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