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In every relationship one person cares more than the other. If you find yourself the person who cares more, you just have to be very careful not be used or taken for granted.
If I was older then I could see myself settling like that. Especially if it meant that I'd be well taken care of and loved. I'm not really much of a lover, so I might not miss the passion too much, but I might feel guilty. So long as we're both happy for the most part.
I think I'd rather spend the rest of my life with someone I loved though. I hope I can be so lucky to have my cake and eat it too.
In every relationship one person cares more than the other. If you find yourself the person who cares more, you just have to be very careful not be used or taken for granted.
He is wonderful, caring, supportive and intelligent. I am the love of his life, but for me he's not "the one".
We have a great marriage, a great life and family.
It works for us for now, but I do long for something more sometimes.
Well, it's been the case with my so , I've been w her for 17 years, but now I'm fed up, I miss the passion. When I told her I wanted to split, you know what her reaction was ? "oh my my you must be ill, take a rest, don't talk nonsense, you know you can't leave me". I could have been playin' fiddle...that's what I call passive resistance. Anyway, would I have the heart to throw them out, without a job, without a home, at 60 ? of course not.
I'm damned.
I loved more and am so unhappy. My husband is a decent man but incapable of any closeness or affection. I was dumb and young when we married and thought if I loved him enough he would change.
Biggest mistake of my life.
You are not damned. One thing I have learned is that each and everyone of us is responisble for OUR own happiness. Life is so horribly short. If you want to leave do so. Be kind, be fair but stick to your guns. She is a grown woman and will have to learn to take care of herself. I am sure you have some monies and stocks or a home that will be divided and she will have to get a job and make do. But at 60 you are a young man and you need to find happiness as I do. It's scary and yes you may lose some friends, but they are not living your life. When the doors close to your home and it's just the two of you for company and you are unhappy well it's time to move on. Hell 60 is the new 40. Best of luck to you.
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Originally Posted by pigeonhole
Well, it's been the case with my so , I've been w her for 17 years, but now I'm fed up, I miss the passion. When I told her I wanted to split, you know what her reaction was ? "oh my my you must be ill, take a rest, don't talk nonsense, you know you can't leave me". I could have been playin' fiddle...that's what I call passive resistance. Anyway, would I have the heart to throw them out, without a job, without a home, at 60 ? of course not.
I'm damned.
Depends on how much the person loves me more than I love him. If it's just a tiny bit, that's fine. But if it's a lot, hell, no!
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One thing I have learned is that each and everyone of us is responisble for OUR own happiness. Life is so horribly short. If you want to leave do so. Be kind, be fair but stick to your guns. She is a grown woman and will have to learn to take care of herself. I am sure you have some monies and stocks or a home that will be divided and she will have to get a job and make do. But at 60 you are a young man and you need to find happiness as I do. It's scary and yes you may lose some friends, but they are not living your life. When the doors close to your home and it's just the two of you for company and you are unhappy well it's time to move on. Hell 60 is the new 40. Best of luck to you. 
