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Resdisca if you stay a friend to the person then you are one special person because I have NEVER met anybody that does that.
Every guy I have known is have some sex, cut all ties, and then run and avoid like the black plague.
I've met plenty of people who do that. Just out of curiosity, where do you live -- medieval Spain? Of course, I always had a knack for filtering out guys who had been brainwashed by the patriarchy. They are good neither for boyfriends, nor for FWB's, nor even for friends.
LOL yes I live in medieval Spain and I'm stepping back into my time machine as I type this message.
Are you being 'for real' when you say "They are good neither for boyfriends, nor for FWB's, nor even for friends."
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I've met plenty of people who do that. Just out of curiosity, where do you live -- medieval Spain? Of course, I always had a knack for filtering out guys who had been brainwashed by the patriarchy. They are good neither for boyfriends, nor for FWB's, nor even for friends.
Are you being 'for real' when you say "They are good neither for boyfriends, nor for FWB's, nor even for friends."
Yes, patriarchal men (and women) have lots of major issues that I never wanted to deal with. That was inarticulately phrased, though. I never wanted anything to do with men like that on any level, that's what I meant.
Ugh I've had similar experiences to FWB and they were all bad and very hurtful experiences.
I still think it's a stupid and greedy thing to do.
That sucks, Artsy. But would you think that way if your experiences were good?
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I'm starting to have some understanding because you and some of the other posters might have a very high sex drive.
People with high sex drives get married, they date and they have FWB's. Those who are open to FWB relationships are not necessarily sex addicts humping on every person they see.
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Be a real man and date. Get into a real relationship is what I say.
Then you'd be griping that he/she played you when they bailed because they weren't looking for a committed relationship to begin with. What do those people do? Sit home and do nothing?
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How fulfilling can being nothing more a human sex toy be? To have no value to a person except as an instrument for sexual gratification. When you think about FWB is just another form of prostitution.
Where is it written that people are being used and have no value?
I loved the two men I had these relationships with and still do, just not in the way that would fuel a committed relationship. No one felt used or cheap. There was enough attraction, comfort and maturity there for it to work. There are people in conventional relationships that dream of having that.
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Maybe somebody feels guilt after they have casual sex because they now feel cheap, exposed, and trashy?
Maybe they've been sucked in by the rantings of a closed minded, puritanical (and hypocritical) society.
Patriarchal means the male is head of the family what the heck does that have to do with men that want sex and then cut the ties and avoid like plague? hello. Patriarchal is the wrong word here.......
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Yes, patriarchal men (and women) have lots of major issues that I never wanted to deal with. That was inarticulately phrased, though. I never wanted anything to do with men like that on any level, that's what I meant.
Patriarchal means the male is head of the family what the heck does that have to do with men that want sex and then cut the ties and avoid like plague? hello.
I'm sure you know patriarchy entails more than that -- namely, the sexual objectification, subjugation, and shaming of women. That's why in a traditional patriarchal culture, young men are encourage to seduce women and then shame them for having been seduced.
I doubt that. Some people have internal values and 'moral compasses'.
Really? So shame over sex is biological, then? Hmm. Any objective scientific evidence to back that up?
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Just out of curiosity, where do you live -- medieval Spain? Of course, I always had a knack for filtering out guys who had been brainwashed by the patriarchy. They are good neither for boyfriends, nor for FWB's, nor even for friends.
