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Old 04-16-2009, 12:08 PM
 
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is it unusual for a person, male or female (in this case, female) to be approx. middle-age, single, and without "a lifetime's worth" of horrible relationship experiences?

all of the middle-agers (like from 35 yrs old & up) whom I've known during the last few years have related histories which made my hair stand on end: horribly abusive marriages, one living-together arrangement after another, dozens upon dozens of sexual partners, etc. etc. = more "baggage" than I'd known could exist in individual people.
where does a person stand who had a positive LTR and then found oneself single and in the middle of individuals like I just described?

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Old 04-16-2009, 12:19 PM
 
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I don't have "a lifetime's worth of horrible relationship experiences". So no, I don't think it's unusual at all.
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Old 04-16-2009, 12:22 PM
 
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I'm a guy and I have many many stories about my life at 38. theyre not baggages but more like life experiences for those who braved going full steam ahead. more like battle scars. some of them are lessons to slow down at certain familiar forks on the road. It makes me more appealing compared to a lot of loser characters and mamas boys out there. maybe for girls its not so appealing to let everyone know about your past
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Old 04-16-2009, 12:25 PM
 
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I think you gotta look in the right places, pray to God and be lucky not to find a piece of trash.
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Old 04-16-2009, 12:25 PM
 
Location: El Paso, TX
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is it unusual for a person, male or female (in this case, female) to be approx. middle-age, single, and without "a lifetime's worth" of horrible relationship experiences?

all of the middle-agers (like from 35 yrs old & up) whom I've known during the last few years have related histories which made my hair stand on end: horribly abusive marriages, one living-together arrangement after another, dozens upon dozens of sexual partners, etc. etc. = more "baggage" than I'd known could exist in individual people.
where does a person stand who had a positive LTR and then found oneself single and in the middle of individuals like I just described?

We have been married 35 years and never had divorces before. I will not go deeper as to why many people have so many relationship problems.
Where does a person stand after a breakup like that?
Depenindg on the situation and the individual, he or she will either let that distroy her life or get up, pick up the pieces and keep going. Many fall in those two situations.

You have a great day.
El Amigo
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Old 04-16-2009, 12:58 PM
 
Location: Vero Beach, Fl
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My gosh - you are talking about the woman who works down the hall from us. As she relaid her latest experience, which echos what your post said, all I could think of is how can people possess such poor judgement and low esteem to be in such a situation. In this woman's case, it appears to be habitual.

In my mind, it takes enourmous effort to get that screwed up. Then I learned that the parents had issues -- too serious and sorted to mention here and now I know why this woman is the mess that she is. And, it is people like her who bring children into the world. She loves her children beyond words, but my heart breaks for them, too.
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Old 04-16-2009, 01:01 PM
 
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You'd probably be very attractive to a good man.
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Old 04-16-2009, 01:06 PM
 
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where does a person stand who had a positive LTR and then found oneself single and in the middle of individuals like I just described?
No, not everyone's life is a series of trainwrecks. Just keep on looking.
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Old 04-16-2009, 01:17 PM
 
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is it unusual for a person, male or female (in this case, female) to be approx. middle-age, single, and without "a lifetime's worth" of horrible relationship experiences?

all of the middle-agers (like from 35 yrs old & up) whom I've known during the last few years have related histories which made my hair stand on end: horribly abusive marriages, one living-together arrangement after another, dozens upon dozens of sexual partners, etc. etc. = more "baggage" than I'd known could exist in individual people.
where does a person stand who had a positive LTR and then found oneself single and in the middle of individuals like I just described?

Sure, Charles Manson.
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Old 04-16-2009, 05:48 PM
 
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No, it's not unusual.

I don't have any baggage and all that I did have I took to the curb for garbage pickup over 10 years ago.

No sad story of lost love, being dumped, not finding the right guy[because I'm not looking]....nothing.
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