What to do?

[Aylalou]

I personally don't like the idea of guessing a man's intentions. You could ask him out. I probably suffer from too much pride (not recommending this necessarily) but I'd need more to go on and me, just being me, would want him to prove to me he is interested instead of just flirting. He could be doing this to many.

I guess I've dated and had relationships long enough to be wary that this guy is a player (read: heartbreaker) but go for it. If you don't mind asking him out, go for it! More power to you.

I also personally wouldn't care for him saying "Anything else I can do for you." To me that is full-time player language because he isn't being direct and upfront and just asking you out for coffee or something. He's waiting to see his ego inflate by your reaction. Just my thoughts.

If he isn't asking you out because it's not professional, then he really couldn't go out with you at all, even if you asked him.

[teatime]

Originally Posted by Aylalou

I personally don't like the idea of guessing a man's intentions. You could ask him out. I probably suffer from too much pride (not recommending this necessarily) but I'd need more to go on and me, just being me, would want him to prove to me he is interested instead of just flirting. He could be doing this to many.

I guess I've dated and had relationships long enough to be wary that this guy is a player (read: heartbreaker) but go for it. If you don't mind asking him out, go for it! More power to you.

I also personally wouldn't care for him saying "Anything else I can do for you." To me that is full-time player language because he isn't being direct and upfront and just asking you out for coffee or something. He's waiting to see his ego inflate by your reaction. Just my thoughts.

If he isn't asking you out because it's not professional, then he really couldn't go out with you at all, even if you asked him.

Well, that's not really true. I dated a surgeon many years ago, whom I met when I was his patient. Same sort of vibe I'm getting now and at my last visit, I asked him if he'd like to go out for coffee sometime. He accepted and called me to set it up. He told me then that he was really glad I said something because even though he wanted to, he couldn't initiate. The thing that clued me in that he might actually be interested was that when I showed up for my appointments, he started taking everyone else before me. That meant I was last and we had lots of time to talk, LOL. He'd tell the secretary she could leave and I'd leave the check for my copay on her desk. We talked about everything, none of it suggestive or even flirtatious, but it was clear that he liked spending time with me.

We dated for a while until I got a job offer out of state and decided to take it. The LDR faded after about a year.

[Capt. Dan]

Originally Posted by teatime

Well, that's not really true. I dated a surgeon many years ago, whom I met when I was his patient. Same sort of vibe I'm getting now and at my last visit, I asked him if he'd like to go out for coffee sometime. He accepted and called me to set it up. He told me then that he was really glad I said something because even though he wanted to, he couldn't initiate. The thing that clued me in that he might actually be interested was that when I showed up for my appointments, he started taking everyone else before me. That meant I was last and we had lots of time to talk, LOL. He'd tell the secretary she could leave and I'd leave the check for my copay on her desk. We talked about everything, none of it suggestive or even flirtatious, but it was clear that he liked spending time with me.

We dated for a while until I got a job offer out of state and decided to take it. The LDR faded after about a year.

Hmmmm. A male doctor asked the last female employee in the office to leave so he could be alone with a female patient? Quite risky and borderline unethical if you ask me.