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If you were interested in a married woman who became divorced, yet decided to keep her spouse as a roommate, would you bother going out with her or would you think there is something inappropriate about her living arrangement? (No immediate plans to have the stbx move out even when divorce is final as long as he pays his rent.)
I doubt you're in my age group, but I'll answer anyway.
Imagine how awkward and stressful it would be to come over to your date's house and their ex is there. Now imagine they live there all the time. You can never have a "sleepover", they share the same kitchen and living room, etc.
I think it would require a man of extreme patience and tolerance. Or you would have to keep your entire relationship at his house or neutral ground.
This is a very sticky situation, but I hope something works out for you.
That situation sounds like a premise for a tv sitcom! Is this you or a purely a hypothetical situation? Are you sharing some fabulously cheap NYC rent control apartment? I suppose a prospective suitor might be reassured if he could meet the exhubbie and get the vibes that the whole arrangement was cool with him. And better yet if the exhubbie already had a girlfriend that he could meet.
A few months ago, there was a thread about a woman dating a man that was living with his baby momma. Any situation can work as long as everyone is mature about it and all the previous love feelings are long gone.
Is this a purely financial arrangement? If so, OK.
If you can go out for a beer with the ex-husband and he's not territorial about the ex-wife, then no problem.
Have sex at your place.
Is this a purely financial arrangement? If so, OK.
No! It's not ok. Agreements is logical, but just so often human mind defies all logic. I wouldn't dare to walk into a trap like this even wearing full body kevlar suit. Having dealt with exes of all kinds, even years after the other relationship broke, there is some fuming, venting and sparkling. Never know how many megatons of emotions are dormant beneath...
Why would two people get divorced yet continue to live together?
because of hard economic times and we have a dog (my dog) that we love like a child, I also have cats and he helps me when I am at working caring for them and taking the dog to the park so I don't have to feel guilty about not doing so. (Not at all a fan of exercise)
He also stays because it is close to his job, I am happy to get the help with the yard work and extra money. We actually get along a lot better now that we know we're getting divorced. I don't care what he does so Im not stressed out about it. (Comes home late, maybe he's gambing, I don't care, he can open a credit card and max it out once we're divorced for all I care.) He's rather room with me than someone from his work. I am good to live with.
I doubt you're in my age group, but I'll answer anyway.
Imagine how awkward and stressful it would be to come over to your date's house and their ex is there. Now imagine they live there all the time. You can never have a "sleepover", they share the same kitchen and living room, etc.
I think it would require a man of extreme patience and tolerance. Or you would have to keep your entire relationship at his house or neutral ground.
This is a very sticky situation, but I hope something works out for you.
Yes, this will be strange, right now it's like don't bring a woman / man here. Eventually , if one of us meets someone else we really like, we may have to change things.
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I wouldn't dare to walk into a trap like this even wearing full body kevlar suit. Having dealt with exes of all kinds, even years after the other relationship broke, there is some fuming, venting and sparkling. Never know how many megatons of emotions are dormant beneath...
