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With my ex I had no reason to ever snoop because he was an idiot and always let things slip out. I've never snooped on my current SO either. I've never had any reason to either. I trust him completely. The only thing I have any concern about is his ex who keeps texting him and somehow got his new cell number and he claims he doesn't know how (I assume it was through a mutual friend though). He always tells me when she texts him or tries to call him and usually shares with me the content of her texts/voicemails.
I trust my SO. I don't trust his ex. Luckily she lives a few states away.
So no, I've never snooped on him. Out of curiosity though, I once picked up his cell phone when he was asleep and left it in the living room, with the intent on sifting through old texts (to see if he'd gotten anything from the ex that he didn't share). I didn't even get so far as to turn the keypad lock off before I set the phone down again because it seemed so foolish and stupid and I was only going to do it out of boredom anyways. I felt really guilty for doing it too.
I don't snoop. I look. I don't care. I know Im not going to find anything fun.
Perfect line in a HOUSE, MD rerun last night. "I don't care, I just want to know"
Last time I "snooped" was when we suspected our then 16 yr old daughter was doing drugs. We were right...wasn't really snooping since it was my house and I bought everything in her room FWIW she's 6.5 yrs clean.
I snoop on my spouse all the time. Once I found out he was emailing other chicks online and I got really pissed, but now I'm at the point in my marriage where I wish he would give me a good excuse to leave.
I'm not a snooper. I'm unusually private myself, so I try to give my SO the same courtesy that I want for myself.
I have once, in the distant past, investigated a guy I was dating. When we met, he told me he was XX years old. Further down the line (months) he told me he was YY years old. I thought it was strange that a static fact could change or be forgotten, so I hopped on google, did some research, and found he was significantly older than what he told me.
of course! catch someone doing wrong.. have them readily admit their wrongdoing and tell you they're ready to be done with it, and the natural assumption is that he's probably lying?
no wonder people can't stay married. it doesnt matter WHAT someone says, once they've screwed up once, they're on death row permanently.
as for the topic, No.. I don't snoop, ever. My exwife used to snoop on my all the time.. I was held accountable for everything from an email she was unfamiliar with, to a celphone number on my WORK phone that she didn't recognize.. If i didn't remember who it was (sorry.. can't say i memorized all the numbers ) the only way to satisfy her was to call it in front of her, and let her hear a male voice on the other end.. god help me if i ever had to do business with a woman.
for tht matter.. if i HAD snooped, maybe i would have discovered her moving on long before she actually told me she was leaving. I still won't snoop.. some things i just don't care to know.
I was in a situation like that with my ex-wife. The reason she was snooping was because she was having an ongoing affair with my brother-in-law. I never snooped on her and found out about the affair because of her guilty feelings, she ended up telling me about it. I wouldn't put up one minute with someone snooping, I would end the relationship with them.
If I were in a situation where I thought I had to snoop, I'd be seeing an attorney, and I wouldn't give it a second though, I'd just do it.
1. Who on here has committed snooping on your current (or then) girlfriend, boyfriend, or spouse?
2. If you have, did you find anything alarming, or was it "fruitless"?
Some men and women wouldn't have to snoop if they hired me. In the years I have been in the business I have seen all kinds of stuff. Some of which is men and women hiding in the basement with a towel wrapped around them or putting on their clothes very quickly when my boots start squeaking the stairs! I have also seen men run out the back door before. Some even hide in a closet or in the garage. Also you go to their house one day and so and so is there. When you go back at a later time their spouse is there. "Rugged, meet my wife or my husband"! Then they give you the evil eye like, "you better shut up"! I hate that part of my job!
Some men and women wouldn't have to snoop if they hired me. In the years I have been in the business I have seen all kinds of stuff. Some of which is men and women hiding in the basement with a towel wrapped around them or putting on their clothes very quickly when my boots start squeaking the stairs! I have also seen men run out the back door before. Some even hide in a closet or in the garage. Also you go to their house one day and so and so is there. When you go back at a later time their spouse is there. "Rugged, meet my wife or my husband"! Then they give you the evil eye like, "you better shut up"! I hate that part of my job!
and what exactly do you do?
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FWIW she's 6.5 yrs clean.
Snooping on your spouse/ BF/ GF
) the only way to satisfy her was to call it in front of her, and let her hear a male voice on the other end.. god help me if i ever had to do business with a woman.
