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So most of you already know I am going through a nasty divorce. On friday we will be legally separated. She calls me on the way home.. early BTW, and says "What are we doing tonight?" I told her the kids are showered, home work is done, dinner will be ready when she gets here. After we eat with the boys I am going out so that she can have the house to herself. To be honest I am tired of fighting so I can't be around her.
She gets flipping mad and tells me "What you don't want to spend time with me?" Aaaahhh no. I don't thus the divorce. I swear she is mental. She started sobbing saying she will change she will do therapy. All of this after trying to ruin my business. After all the bitter crap spewed from her mouth.
Is mine the only one that flip flops back and for with the wind?
Its not that she doesn't get it. She is trying to get you to stay with her so that she can continue to hurt you even more. Don't go for it. Its over you are doing the right thing.
It's just a stage, man.. Stick with it, and be nice, but firm about it.. Eventually, it will hit her and she'll stop the fish out of water routine. FWIW, I went through the same thing when my exwife left me.
EDIT:Edited against my better judgement.. i'd hate to offend anyone with thin skin
Last edited by J double R; 04-21-2009 at 04:18 PM..
I dunno, dude. There are some things you can excuse and others you can't. When someone turns evil and spiteful, it's hard to go back from there. Once they cross that line, it's easier for them to cross it again.
Hi Boneheaded - I don't know the details of your situation (new to this) but it sounds like you two are still living together. If so, my advice would be to get your own place quickly - it would make things much easier and help drive home the fact that you're done (if you truly are). She's trying to hang on to you and if you really want to end it, make yourself less available to her. If you move, you will only have to see/talk to her when it concerns the kids.
Hi Boneheaded - I don't know the details of your situation (new to this) but it sounds like you two are still living together. If so, my advice would be to get your own place quickly - it would make things much easier and help drive home the fact that you're done (if you truly are). She's trying to hang on to you and if you really want to end it, make yourself less available to her. If you move, you will only have to see/talk to her when it concerns the kids.
If he's the one that filed for divorce (it sounds like he did) why would he move out of his own house?
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FWIW, I went through the same thing when my exwife left me.
