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Old 04-22-2009, 09:00 AM
 
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I have some of the post that talks a lot about sex in their relationship. Is it really a big factor in a relationship. What if the other cannot do it..Will it end in a divorce.? Break ups?

what do you think guys..
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Old 04-22-2009, 09:08 AM
 
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Like the other question you asked.. it depends on the people involved.

I'm of the opinion that this sort of thing oughta be hashed out before you go committing to a relationship, and that it could potentially end in divorce and/or prolonged misery.

But I've read some of your other posts.. you seem to be a rather orthodox Christian.. many people of your persuasion feel morally compelled to "roll the dice", so to speak, and wait until after you've already committed.
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Old 04-22-2009, 09:20 AM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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Why do you think so many people cheat on their SO's...for the conversation?

I believe holding out on sex is grounds for divorce, but I'm not sure of all the messy details. No sex would be a dealbreaker for me.
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Old 04-22-2009, 09:24 AM
 
Location: Fort Worth, Texas
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FOR ME, it depends on why the other person is not having sex with me. If I was happily married and he had an accident and was unable, then of course thats different but if I was married to someone who just witheld sex from me then thats not something I would live with. I would try to work through it but suggesting that WE attend therapy to address why he didin't want to have sex but in the end, FOR ME sex is part and parcel of a functional marriage and I need that complete intimacy.
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Old 04-22-2009, 09:35 AM
 
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I would say it is not a BIG factor but it does have an important role in any relationship.
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Old 04-22-2009, 09:44 AM
 
Location: Texas
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It is a huge factor. Sex is the glue that holds a couple together. No matter what. If you are fussing and bickering over nothing really serious, a good romp will cure the frustration ad put a smile on both faces. Some one not long ago had a thread where the health benefits were detailed.

Sex is also a great opportunity to "worship" your partner and give them a reason to over look your garbage.
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Old 04-22-2009, 09:47 AM
 
Location: Fort Worth, Texas
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It is a huge factor. Sex is the glue that holds a couple together. No matter what. If you are fussing and bickering over nothing really serious, a good romp will cure the frustration ad put a smile on both faces. Some one not long ago had a thread where the health benefits were detailed.

Sex is also a great opportunity to "worship" your partner and give them a reason to over look your garbage.
That is SO true, if your partner has some habits you don't like, they get smoothed over and almost forgotten if your having a good sex life.
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Old 04-22-2009, 09:51 AM
 
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I have some of the post that talks a lot about sex in their relationship. Is it really a big factor in a relationship. What if the other cannot do it..Will it end in a divorce.? Break ups?

what do you think guys..
Well, I think it IS important!

I mean, you have no other closer connection with anyone else.

We have many "friends" "neighbors" "coworkers" who are our friends. We work together in many instances to maintain common goals and such BUT and I mean "BUT!!" It is the "sexual" connection that you have with your Spouse that makes it special....different from all other relationships. That's why when a mate cheats the bond is broken. It was the special bond that keeps them "ONE."

If a relationship does not have this sort of bond anymore it is a deal breaker. You have to have the intimate connection with your spouse. Obviously this is a challenge if there is some performance issues but I think there should be some effort to continue to keep the sex alive.
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Old 04-22-2009, 09:59 AM
 
Location: Wyoming
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Sexual compatibility is very important. If both husband and wife are a-sexual, the sex act wouldn't be a big deal, but if one is a-sexual and the other has a high libido, the marriage is doomed.
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Old 04-22-2009, 11:00 AM
 
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Maybe if neither the wife nor the husband is very sexual then it's not very important, but if one is and the other one isn't, I'd say it's all but over. Just another one of the lies the Catholics told us Pinoy. Don't worry, once you understand their agenda, you are free.... Listen up .... IT'S A BUSINESS!!
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