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The only thing my husband knows of my past (we've been married for 30 years) is the guy I had just broken up with when I met him because he kept trying to get back together with me so he was hard not to talk about. All I know of his past is about his ex wife and the woman he was dating when he met me simply because she kept calling him until after we were married (then she took the hint ).
I've never seen reason to ask him anything else nor him me, which has saved me a lot of embarassment. Let's just say I came to adulthood during a rather free time
Personally speaking, when somone starts asking a lot of questions like that it raises red flags. To me and in my experience, I've noticed that people that act like that tend to be very jealous types and yes, sometimes even psycho. I'd give your friend some honest advice and tell him "buyer beware".
I am in a fairly new relationship (couple of months) but I'm very comfortable with the way it is going, and much of the time we spend together involves learning about each other. Since we are both single parents, we may have a more concern about each other's history, than some others. He has asked about my past relationships, and I about his. But it's not "quizzing" - it's simply casual conversation. Neither of us has any problem with that.
So a buddy of mine, David, "hooked" up w/ a woman named Angela. He had met her through a friend of his, so in a sense, they are now starting to hang out in the same group of friends since about 1 month ago, or so.
Well, during that night, while they were "taking a break" from having fun (I guess), she started asking him questions like, "How many girls have you been with?", "What's your type?"
And then it gets worse. Several months before, David had liked someone in the group by the named of Celia, but he said nothing happened w/ him and Celia because Celia apparently wasn't into him as much as he was into Celia. Somehow, Angela had found out from somebody in their group that David, at some point, had liked Celia. So that night that they hooked up, Angela was pressing for information about him and Celia.
Jesus Christ! I smell psycho in the making!
So based on his awkward situation, allow me to ask:
According to all of you, how soon should a person start asking about the other person about their "past"? And if being asked, what types of questions are appropriate, or not?
I'd say she's either very insecure or that you're right with the word 'psycho'...
two accurate words there: "past," and "theirs."
unless a person had an affair with the other person's relative, or is carrying some kind of STD, it shouldn't be brought up at all.
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