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Well, is it? I guess in another thread, we decided that looking at porn isn't cheating. What about cyber-s*x?
Oh, and for those of you who have been asleep for 10 yrs. Cyber-you-know-what is talking about it one-on-one online in a graphic manner. Good definition?
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Weeeell... I think every couple has to determine their own standards of what is cheating to them. For example, one couple might not care about harmless flirting, whereas another one doesn't even want to look at anyone else! So I'm not sure that there can be an across-the-board criteria for flirting.
For my own relationship, though? I would consider cybering cheating. Because it's being very intimate on a personal level. I think it adds a weird level of emotional distraction, which I personally think is worse/more damaging than physical distraction. I hope I explained this well enough...
I think that looking at porno isn't cheating because it's a fantasy; they aren't real, and not a threat. When you cyber, you form a relationship with some real-life person, and where do you draw the line? What if you keep talking to the person and start getting attached? DRAMA DRAMA.
I think it becomes cheating if it is habitual, interferes with your sex life, is repeated with the same on-line lover, you ever try and make plans to see them IRL.
"Many people consider cheating to be any violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of a relationship, which may or may not include sexual monogamy."
I'm in agreement with this. I'd say that this would be a huge violation. Porn is on film. Cyber*x requires direct interaction with another person, resulting in sexual gratification.
I think it becomes cheating if it is habitual, interferes with your sex life, is repeated with the same on-line lover, you ever try and make plans to see them IRL.
I agree. Cybersex is something like porn in that it's based in fantasy. You can be anything you want online. Heh, both parties can claim they are built like porn stars when the reality is much different.
However, if they plan to take it beyond typing fantasies via the computer then, yeah, it's cheating.
What if you have a girlfriend /boyfriend in Second Life ?
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