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Awhile ago, on another forum I used to haunt, there was a serious divide on this question. A large percentage of the female posters felt that, yes, the man should always initiate interest. Not necessarily because of any notions of 'chivalry' (in most cases), but they felt it spoke a lot about a man's character and a man afraid to approach a woman probably carried that cowardice throughout the other aspects of his life.
A lot of the men, on the other hand, argued that sometimes, well, sometimes we're just oblivious to signals (and that's not counting the mixed ones!) and it shouldn't always fall entirely on our shoulders to make the first move. Sometimes even, it's just nice to be the one being pursued for a change!
I thought it was a very interesting topic and figured it couldn't hurt to bring it here.
I prefer a man making the first move because women get mixed signals from men too, and that way there's no doubt in my mind that he's interested. But I know there are some women who make the first move, and often end up with the best guys because they didn't sit back and wait.
Awhile ago, on another forum I used to haunt, there was a serious divide on this question. A large percentage of the female posters felt that, yes, the man should always initiate interest. Not necessarily because of any notions of 'chivalry' (in most cases), but they felt it spoke a lot about a man's character and a man afraid to approach a woman probably carried that cowardice throughout the other aspects of his life.
That's a good point. Never really thought of it that way, but I do prefer an assertive man. I personally don't like to make the first move.
No he shouldn't. He should wait patiently like a lion stalking it's prey, wait for the right moment (her move) then attack. (yes folks, I watch a lot of those wild nature shows)
I just talk to people and people talk to me and sometimes it becomes more than a casual conversation.
Apart from this happening, I think the man should usually make the first move. I like a man with confidence, I think primitively it shows he can protect me.
I have never made the first move im not brave enough, but I have many friends who do and they do usually get the 'keepers'.
It always amazed me how the women who claim to be so afraid of rejection are NEVER afraid to reject.
Plain and simple, if a man is interested in a woman he should approach her. If a woman is interested in a man she should approach him. If there is a mutual interest then whoever is the boldest should step up. All of that "sending signals" is childish and a waste of time.
Life is too short so if you see something you want you better go after it.
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