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you wanna hear a funny story???.........i loved this guys for 3 years, finally had the courage to tell him. We dated for 5 months, it was perfect. He brakes up with me on Christmas Day and tell's me he's gay. A month later i date another guy, thinking it's better to move on from the past. He breaks up with me on valentines day for my AFJROTC HIGH SCHOOL corps commander (which was a guy) and to prove it he was making out with him in front of me after school that day. And finally that following May i dated another guy. We dated for 2 weeks and he all the sudden springs it on me that he's moving to St. Luis missouri. And doesn't bother to tell me till the day he moved officially. So we dated through the summer then i get a call from him one night telling me he wants to break it off....because he's realized that he is gay and he's been cheating on me with his best friends sisters, brother for a month.......now tell me. Do you feel better about yourself?
Blessed Be
LeDelia
Location: Gilbert, Arizona... a suburb of metro Phoenix in the East Valley
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Originally Posted by AppleCherry
I know, I know.
I must have castrated men or something equally evil in my past life because practically every 3 out of 5 guys that I find myself attracted to turns out to be gay!
It doesn't help that what I find attractive in guys are usually qualities found in gay men.
I'm doomed LOL.
Hmmm... maybe bi guys are more your speed... best of both worlds, right? He he - not that I'm offering... lol.
No idea what type of men turn you on... bi and gay men come in all forms... masculine, feminine... buff, padded... conservative, liberal... aggressive, sensitive... bigoted, open-minded... selfish, giving... players, monogamous... mechanical, passionate... dominant, submissive... jocks, geeks... chauvinistic, gentlemen... just like any men. Give me some ideas of your 'type' and then maybe I could give you some advice as to what signs to look for, to avoid (or attract) gay men - or bi men, for that matter.
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As of now, I live in a rural town in a somewhat southern state. Enough said haha!!
You need to expand your horizons, hon. It sounds like you have a tendency to like sophisticated, polished guys rather than rugged, rough-hewn types.
I would suggest a couple of things. First, you should probably look at older men. Younger guys are, generally speaking, less mature and more prone to embracing a testosterone-soaked, macho persona. Older men tend to be more comfortable in their masculinity and feel less need to prove anything. They're also more likely to share your tastes.
Secondly, you probably need to change your geography. You need to look in the cool/trendy/upscale areas in a big city or nerby areas (preferably not in the south). You'll find lots of gay guys there, but you'll also find more straight guys who'll fit yourt bill.
You need to expand your horizons, hon. It sounds like you have a tendency to like sophisticated, polished guys rather than rugged, rough-hewn types.
I would suggest a couple of things. First, you should probably look at older men. Younger guys are, generally speaking, less mature and more prone to embracing a testosterone-soaked, macho persona. Older men tend to be more comfortable in their masculinity and feel less need to prove anything. They're also more likely to share your tastes.
Secondly, you probably need to change your geography. You need to look in the cool/trendy/upscale areas in a big city or nerby areas (preferably not in the south). You'll find lots of gay guys there, but you'll also find more straight guys who'll fit yourt bill.
Ditto!!!
I would also suggest you hang on to those gay friends. They are the best!! Take them shopping with you and listen to them because they have perfect taste and yes, they will tell you truthfully if something makes your butt look huge Most gay guys are also excellent listeners and you can unload on them when your female friends just don't get it.
Location: I never said I was perfect so no refunds here sorry!
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Sounds like perhaps you need to be sexually aggressive when getting started out. So if you turn on the heat and it gets hotter and you bring out an animal instinct and you feel the desire and hunger your probably safe... If your beginning as a meek mild manored female with no aggression well........
That's funny. Hey, for those who wear suits, or a coat and tie, what's your take on a pink dress shirt? Yes? No?
I thought metrosexual meant a heterosexual male who overindulges in the aesthetic stuff (like clothing , skin treatments or similar items). Isn't that the definition?
Or mauve, lavender, fuchia.....god I'm bad at those things.
you wanna hear a funny story???.........i loved this guys for 3 years, finally had the courage to tell him. We dated for 5 months, it was perfect. He brakes up with me on Christmas Day and tell's me he's gay. A month later i date another guy, thinking it's better to move on from the past. He breaks up with me on valentines day for my AFJROTC HIGH SCHOOL corps commander (which was a guy) and to prove it he was making out with him in front of me after school that day. And finally that following May i dated another guy. We dated for 2 weeks and he all the sudden springs it on me that he's moving to St. Luis missouri. And doesn't bother to tell me till the day he moved officially. So we dated through the summer then i get a call from him one night telling me he wants to break it off....because he's realized that he is gay and he's been cheating on me with his best friends sisters, brother for a month.......now tell me. Do you feel better about yourself?
Blessed Be
LeDelia
Did you introduce them to each other? No point holding a grudge. They were at least honest enough to be candid.
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Most gay guys are also excellent listeners and you can unload on them when your female friends just don't get it.
